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    Spending The Holidays Alone Is Actually Good — Here’s Why

    “We’ve created this sort of blind loyalty to your family, no matter what you’re dealing with, blind loyalty to friends, no matter who they are.”

    On today's episode of BuzzFeed Daily, we broke down the top pop culture headlines AND discussed being alone during the holidays. You can listen below or scroll down to read more about the interview!

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    So let's dive right into it! Recently we talked to comedian and author Lane Moore about how being alone for the Holidays can actually be a good thing. Here's some of what we learned:

    BuzzFeed Daily: So first off, a few years ago, you wrote a book called How to Be Alone: If You Want To, and Even If You Don't, the title seems pretty straightforward, but for our listeners who haven't heard of it. Can you tell us a little bit about the book and what prompted you to write it in the first place?

    Book cover for How To Be Alone by Lane Moore, featuring a phrenology-style head with things like "too many feelings," "social anxiety," "murder shows," "finding the one," "dad issues," etc.

    BuzzFeed Daily: With the holidays coming up, we wanted to talk to you about the sort of do's and don'ts of spending them alone. To start off, how do you personally feel about spending holidays on your own? Is it something you enjoy or something you feel like you kind of just get through?

    Kevin McCallister in Home Alone

    BuzzFeed Daily: Why do you think that there is still so much pressure for people to be with other people for the holidays, whether it's friends, family, or romantic partners? What is it about the holiday season?

    Renee Zellweger in Bridget Jones' Diary

    BuzzFeed Daily: I think that if you're single, especially as you get older, spending time with family and friends can still make you feel very alone because, inevitably, the topic of why you're single is going to come up and they're going to be like, "Oh, you know, you'll find someone. Why aren't you seeing anyone? Blah blah blah..." How do you feel about those conversations? How should someone handle that?

    Emma Roberts in Holidate

    BuzzFeed Daily: Where can our listeners find you online, and do you have anything else coming up down the pipeline?

    Three years ago today my book, How To Be Alone, came out. I was so worried that I was the only one who didnt have a "perfect" family or friend group. And it's frankly magic that a book about feeling like you're the only one who's alone, ended up connecting me to so many of you.🖤

    Twitter: @hellolanemoore

    LM: I'm on all the social medias at @hellolanemoore and people can find the first book, How to Be Alone, at any local bookstore. And my second book is actually coming out in 2023, which is a little bit away, but it's going to be called You Will Find Your People, and it is about finding people who actually make you feel really safe and wonderful and exploring friendships that are actually healthy and good.

    🔈Listen to the episode above for the full interview.

    We also discussed the backlash Rebel Wilson received for her "year of health."

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    She told BBC News: "I got a lot of pushback from my own team — actually — here in Hollywood, when I said, 'I'm gonna do this year of health, I really feel like I'm gonna physically transform and change my life.' And they were like, 'Why? Why would you wanna do that?' Because I was earning millions of dollars being the funny fat girl and being that person."

    She added: "Even though I was still very confident being bigger and loved myself — would rock a red carpet being double the size and triple the weight of other actresses — I still felt confident in that. But I knew deep down inside that some of the emotional eating behaviors I was doing was not healthy."

    Plus, Brooke Shields recently called out the media for the way it oversexualized her when she appeared in a Calvin Klein jeans ad as a teen.

    Photo of Brooke Shields at a Glamour party

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