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    12 Stories Of Mansplaining That Will Make You Say "Man, The Things Women Have To Put Up With!"

    So, mansplaining...

    BuzzFeed LOLA asked readers for their best stories of mansplaining in the workplace. Here are some of their favorites:

    Norman Rockwell

    Note: some of the responses have been edited for style or length.


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    "Two years into a job, my boss would still try to explain very basic tasks to me that I'd already been doing without any issues. It never mattered if I told him I knew how to do it already or even if it was something I was already working on, he couldn't stop until he finished his little speech."



    "A man from another department saw me walking towards the water fountain in our office and he stopped me to ask if I knew how it worked. You know, because water fountains are a technological marvel. I told him I did, pressed the button, and took a drink. But apparently I did it differently than him, which means I was doing it wrong, and he pointed out that the fountain had a foot pedal which was 'more comfortable.' That wasn't news to me, but I was fine using the button. As I continued to drink, he added, 'Be careful with your hair! It may get wet.'"



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    "I'm currently studying sound and image engineering and a while back a guy who claimed to be studying medicine interrupted me to correct me and poorly explain how various factors in the space we were in might affect the acoustics."



    "I have been a clerk at a home improvement store for eight years. Most of the customers I talk to refuse to take my advice or recommendations until I get a male colleague to back me up, even if he has less experience than me."



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    "I'm an architect and part of my job is to review projects to ensure that they adhere to regulations before applying for a permit. Usually, if it's a man who submits the project I am reviewing, I have to explain my reasoning several times before they pay attention or stop arguing about the documents they need, even when I'm literally quoting the guidelines to them."



    "I'm responsible for maintaining all the social network accounts for my company. One day, a project manager came to my desk to ask a question and very nicely guided me to where I could find the statistics he was looking for on Facebook. All while he was eating a yogurt."




    "I was working at a land management company doing contract work for the local government. I was visiting a plot of land with my boss and we were driving at the top of a hill. We turned to go down a steep slope and the landscape opened up beneath us and due to a trick of perspective, it appeared to be lower than the horizon.

    He commented that he was concerned that the bottom part of the hill was lower than sea level, but I explained that it was just our perspective making it look that way, since the horizon is always at eye level. He got angry and started treating me like I was dumb. He attempted to justify his earlier assessment by saying that if the horizon was at eye-level at the top of the hill, everything lower than that must be below sea level."



    "A 53-year-old man (who took 11 years to earn his college degree) recently joined my company. He doesn't have any more experience than I do and his boss already has me correcting his work because it's a fucking disaster. One day, out of the blue, he started rattling on and on about how to be successful in our field, totally unprompted. I didn't ask, I didn't care, I didn't even acknowledge him at all that day. He just couldn't help himself."




    "I studied audio-visual communications for four years and I hold a master's degree in film directing. Once I was taking a camera operator course and a guy who had never picked up a camera in his life tried to explain everything about how to use it to me. To make matters worse, he grabbed my personal camera that I had brought with me and detached the lens incorrectly and damaged it."

    Operadora Furiosa


    "I am a freelance web developer. I'm usually a valuable asset to any company that hires me because I can work in many different conditions and environments and I'm good at solving problems. I have a lot of knowledge and experience and I love my job.

    But any time I join a new team, I always get tired of repeating 'Yes, I know', over and over again to colleagues who insist on explaining everything to me. This never happens with other female developers I work with. Some male colleagues have even done my coding for me (as though they were helping) or had me work on very basic tasks, mostly focused on stylistic or design aspects of the job. They don't allow me to modify code, and constantly sabotage my contributions to the project.

    I know many older female programmers who resign themselves to web analytics or SEO later in their careers because being a middle-aged, female programmer must mean you have zero professional credibility. I'm pretty worried about that."




    "I'm a student and one time one of those know-it-all guys, who studies biology, tried to explain sexual assault laws to me, insisting that it's part of civil law, which he claimed to know because his 'mother is a lawyer.' I patiently explained that sexual assault crimes are part of criminal law, which I know because I'm a law student."



    "My mother is an agriculture and livestock technician and we have a grove of trees at home. I'm exhausted by men (my own father included) who insist on explaining to her how to prune, irrigate, and grow her own trees. First it was our neighbor (a former police officer), but most recently it was a plumber who was paying a visit to our house.

    I just don't really understand how any of these people think they're more qualified to explain anything, without any special knowledge or training, to a specialist in the field."


    This post was translated from Spanish.

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