I’m not coddling the victim. I just don’t understand how it can ever be the victims fault, or partly their fault. Passed out drunk or not. It shouldn’t be an excuse. If there is any doubt, why would you continue trying to have sex with someone? There must be something deficient in how their brain works. If you were wary of all risks you might face, you’d never leave the house! You can’t account for other people - someone determined will find their victim sadly. I for one intend on living my life without that fear (and yeah, I’ve seen the nasty side of life) but it won’t ruin me, my fun or my life. To be fair, I am not so eloquent. I think GeekChicLife explained what I was trying to say.