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      Sad ya’ll didn’t show one or two more from St. Louis. I only caught the tail end of the parade and it was like nothing I’ve ever seen (Only year I’ve attended I’ve ever misses the parade, too). And for anyone curious, the festival itself was full of just as much amazingly frenetic, happy, and powerful energy. It was amazing beyond words.  Yet, we know we won a huge battle but we have not forgotten we still are fighting a war. The majority of the US has zero protections against discrimination in areas such as employment, housing, and even healthcare services for LGBT people. Trans lives are being taken at an alarming rate.  We won an enormous victory that will pave the way for many others. This was “the big one” our adversaries feared. It will help kick in doors. But we still have to do the work. We celebrated, quite obviously, and none of us are going to stop cheering in our hearts, but we know we’re not done and it’s time to buckle down. And we are closer than ever.  The day of the STL parade and part 2 of the festival was on the 46th anniversary if Stonewall, and as the I comparable Summer Osborne said “Never forget where you came from.” I’m praying that by the 50th anniversary of Stonewall, every LGBTQIA+ person will have fully equal rights and protections under the law. We owe it to those who came before and to those who will come after.  Happy Pride Month, everyone. It’s been a hell of a year. I can’t wait to see what we do in the coming year.

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      I missed a couple which scares me A) because I’m a lyricphile and worshipped these guys in my early teen years, and B) still consider myself a pretty big fan even though I got way into every form of rock imaginable at 14. >.>  I feel like some of these must be on more recent (don’t have BSB’s new stuff. I suck) or foreign albums or something. Either way, I’m off to Spotify to make sure I know every word to every song again. 13-year-old-me is shaking her head in shame at me.

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      I think it should be both. The anger should exist but be handled in a righteous way, not just nastiness.  But black people, especially black women (both cis and trans), are horribly victimized and here’s a white woman trying to claim she is one of them and promote the idea that she has these shared experiences and pain and I think they’ve every right to be pissed because she’s usurping the parts of the black experience she wants to while maintaining white privilege.  Yes, she deserves pity and needs to get help. But she also needs to be made to understand why what she has done is do inherently wrong.

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      While I agree with what you’re saying, the part about her parents is actually understandable for two reasons: One) I don’t know any extremely young girls (especially black girls adopted into white families) who’d lie about that being sexually abused (and risk losing her family) and yet her parents have repeatedly said her little sister is a liar and made their son who is 40-some years old out to be the victim. No, I wouldn’t want those parents, either. Especially because he’s probably done it to other girls over the course of his life, including Rachel.  Two) It says a lot that her adopted brother was put into her care, legally. The courts don’t just grant guardianship willy nilly. My question is: what did her parents do to make this boy want to leave that family? There’s a LOT of suspicious crap going on in this family that has nothing to do with Rachel faking being black.  Three) The age ranges of their children are suspicious. And yeah, I’ll catch hell for this because there are many great families out there who just keep adopting because they can. But I also have personally known foster and adoptive parents who adopted such a wide age range to keep potential victim’s around. Rachel seems way more withdrawn from her father than her mother. And considering the circumstances with her older brother and younger sister, I wouldn’t be surprised if her biological father is a molester.  And Four) Considering all of the above, if my birth certificate hadn’t been created until a month and a half after I was born and there were no witnesses to my birth? I’d see it as an out, too. A way to distance myself from them. I’d claim a freaking wolf and a grizzly bear were my parents over that.  I sure as hell wouldn’t pretend to be a part of an ethnicity I have no claim to, but I would definitely deny my parents.  The thing that saddens me as a white ally to all ethnic minorities, is that we can do a lot of good because of our priveledge. Do I despise that priveledge? God yes. But it exists and I’m not against using it if it helps move forward the cause of removing racism and eradicating the abuse of ethnic minorities. I feel like she truly does have a deep love of black culture and wants to help advance the cause of the African American Rights movement, but she wasted the chances she had as a white woman to put that to good use with this charade and it makes me extremely sad.

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      Can’t lie, Buzzfeed did good. I don’t have any one female actor who is my #1 favorite, but Meryl Streep is definitely at the top of actresses I adore. Nice to see this wasn’t just young starlets or the “classics” that were pushed when my generation was younger like Halle, Jennifer Anniston, Angelina Jolie, Julia Roberts, etc. All amazing actresses and women, but it’s really nice to see that they included an actress whose awesome sauce has way less to do with her age and bust size and much more to do with her amazing acting skill. Mama Mia, anyone? *swoon*

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      Yeah, unfortunately this one seems to only be paying attention to major headliners who’ve starred in America-made films. >.>  I knew the odds of them getting mine were slim to none because A) my favorite is dead (but I was going to consider that a pass), and B) 2-10 are mostly British (Matt Smith, David Tennant, Benedict, and of course Sirs McKellan and Stewart.)  They did manage to land Johnny Depp who is *a* favorite, by far, and who was tied with Robert Downey Jr. & Patrick Swayze (my #1) at #1 until I was in my early 20’s. So not *too bad*.  But the serious lack of attention paid to the Brits is absurd considering the talent level involved (Arthur Darvill, holy hell!). Not everyone picks their favorite actors for them being young, hot, and in US movies.

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      First of all, I don’t give a rats a** that I’m a bad 20-something.  But the idea that if you’re an introvert who doesn’t like wearing shoes that destroy your feet while going out dancing and getting black out drunk until god knows what time means you don’t “understand” technology and are afraid of Facebook and *app updates* is ridiculous.  Something you may want to add into your equations is that a lot of my generation were raised by or around alcoholics and drug addicts (well done, Gen X! Ya’ll rocked exactly what they’re preaching here) and learned from our families what NOT TO BE.  Sorry, but if you NEED to get drunk to have a good time? You’re doing it wrong. If you need to black out and stay out so late that when you get home you’re not sure what day it is to “have fun”? You’re not only doing it wrong, you should probably be in rehab, and are putting yourself in *danger.* I drink, but I’ve never blacked out or thrown up. I’ve rocked a good buzz and had fun, responsibly, AND *gasp* I’ve even been drunk! Being responsible about it and knowing my limits made it more fun because hey, no hangover! Also, if the bar/club scene had better music, MORE actual dancing, and less stupid people falling down drunk by 10pm, people grinding on you and calling it “dancing,” and skeezy guys hitting on every poor, drunk girl there? Then maybe some us would wanna’ go! Stop glorifying this crap as how we “should be”. Seriously, the idea that this is how to live is peer pressuring BS and you’re supposed to be better than that, Buzzfeed. You don’t have to condemn that lifestyle, because respect for everyone is a good thing! But stop pushing it as the “normal way” we should all be living and using it to demean or condemn the less “hip” choices the rest of us make.  All my fellow “bad 20-something” introverts: I’ll bake us a cake, make home made pop corn, and we can marathon whatever the hell we want on Netflix with some good drinks (hurrah Cuba Libres) and fun party games that don’t exploit people. <3 Comfy beds for everyone.