No matter what, its a difficult situation. I don’t know what I would do in that situation. However, its difficult to empathize with someone who was in a loving, committed relationship that chose not to take precautions. She used a diaphram only after they were married and even then was apparently lazy about it, considering the timing of her first son’s birth. I wish she expressed some emotional distress about having the abortions, about how she thought about the what ifs. Maybe its because I am desperate to have a child, that every month is a big, red, painful reminder of my failures, but its nearly impossible for me to understand her mindset. Maybe its because my younger sister was unplanned, an oops! pregnancy born when my mom was 39 and already had two children. She’s getting married next year and I cannot imagine my life without her. I am personally pro-life, but have realized that we are not reversing Roe v Wade and wish that the Republican party could stop trying to fight it over and over.