Regardless of what’s going on in their marriage, you can’t deny that making a spreadsheet was a total douchebag move. Obviously something is going on here. As far as he’s concerned, no one is ever required to have sex with you any and every time you want, even if they are your spouse. Second, how exactly was he going about it? How does he treat her the rest of the time? From this, it makes it seem like he only sees her as a sex object that exists solely for his sexual pleasure. She’s not. She’s his wife and deserves more respect. Something is going on here. Maybe he should try talking to his wife like an adult and getting to the bottom of whatever is going on with her. Maybe he’s the problem; maybe it’s something else. She’s not off the hook, however. If something is wrong, whether it’s about him or something else, she also needs to be an adult and talk to him about it.