8 Completely Different Opinions On When Women Should Get Married
Everybody seems to have one. We examine the many recommendations on when women should marry to determine the (un)scientifically correct answer.
2. 25
Cosmo calls 25 “The Best Age To Get Married.” That’s because “the more years of higher education a woman has under her belt on her wedding day, the lower the chances that she’ll get divorced…and by 25, you’re more likely to have earned a degree or two.” Also, “odds are that by 25 you’re also supporting yourself, so there’s less incentive for you to rush into marriage because you’re seeking financial security from him.” The magazine does seem to consider 25 more of a floor than a deadline — for instance, they applaud Jessica Biel’s marriage to Justin Timberlake at age 29.
3. 40
In an entertaining survey conducted by The Frisky, one Arizona woman suggested that if women must marry, they should “wait at least till the age of 40. No sense in wasting your youth on one man.”
4. 27
According to mathematician D.V. Lindley, this is the “mathematically correct” age for women to get married. By his calculations, it’s apparently ideal to marry one-third of the way through one’s “period of availability,” which for women he defines as ages 16 to 46.
5. 30
Many people advise women to marry by 30 because that’s when fertility begins to decline — one fertility researcher told USA Today that “as a general rule, women should start having children no later than age 30 and be done by 35.” Of course, women don’t have to be married to have children.
6. 20 or 21
Sociologist Mark Regnerus has urged women not to fear marrying in their very early twenties, because “marriage actually works best as a formative institution, not an institution you enter once you think you’re fully formed” and “women’s ‘market value’ declines steadily as they age.”
7. 28
Career blogger Penelope Trunk advises women to start trying for children at 30, which means “you probably want to be married when you’re 28.” That’s because “for a healthy marriage, experts think people should be married two or three years before they consider having children.”
8. 26
A 2010 survey of British women in their twenties found 26 was the average age by which they wanted to be married. The Daily Mail explained this as “a fear of turning into Bridget Jones and viewing the future through an empty wine glass.”
9. Never
Vanessa Hunt of DateDaily writes, “smarter women know that marriage often leads to traditional gender roles wherein women are the housekeepers, mothers, and caretakers; so smart women know that if they go this route, then they likely won’t be able to pursue their ambitions.” She says women should eschew marriage in favor of sexual freedom and the “peace and quiet” of being on their own.
10. And the correct answer is…
By averaging all the above (using 21 for Regnerus’s recommendation and throwing out “never”), we arrive at 28.14. According our very scientific calculations, this is the absolute correct age to get married. If you are 28, do so now. If you are older, consider time travel.
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Web Sta 5 months agoLots of angst over what seems to be a tongue-in-cheek article. The problem isn’t women’s age of marrying; the problem is that women are not allowed to ask men for anything, much less to marry them. Indeed, to even pass on a phone number to “call me maybe” is regarded as “crazy.” So the age-of-marrying thing is a big concern, because women have little-to-no control over that. And I don’t see any real reasons for keeping this last, great, hold-out tradition from… the Middle Ages? Prehistory? ??? If the Women’s Movement wants some new energy (Thanks, ladies, every woman *has* to work now; happy?), they could maybe focus on that issue, instead. Call me crazy.
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Shaaalien 5 months agoSo the mere fact that I’m married makes me
a less intelligent woman? I don’t think so!
I’m an intelligent woman, married to an
Incredibly educated and intelligent man.
We’re raising two equally intelligent girls.
Daddy issues, and the unwillingness to get
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WhatTheHolyHeck 5 months agoWhat a totally pointless and stupid exercise. They make it sound like marriage is just something you do rather than a decision two people make together when they create an unique relationship they want to last for the rest of their lives. It’s about the people, not the ceremony. For the holy sake of living fuck.
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Diana 5 months agoExactly. A better article would be “When did you know it was time to get married?”, and it was stories about knowing when in your relationship you knew it was time to marry. Not at what age. This kind of crap really pisses me off because it influences women. My sister is bound to settle for the first guy who seems to bite because she feels that she’s too old to get married now. That she’s somehow behind in life because she’s not married. It’s really sickening that people continue to try to fill our heads with this nonsense.
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zombiebait 5 months agoI got married at 28. But I had my first child at 27 so that probably negates the appropriateness.
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Dariana 5 months agoHow about after you meet someone you genuinely want to spend the rest of your life with, and then when you both feel at a comfortable age? I got engaged at 19 (couple of days before my 20th) and married at 22. That worked for us—we both have successful careers and support each other immensely. Some people are ready for that younger (like we were), some when they’re 25, some when they’re 30, and some after. Categorising something like marriage, which does not have the physical limitations like having children, as an age-specific event is absurd.
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primavolta 5 months agoI think Regnerus and Hunt are both full of it. Please don’t tell us about our “market value”, since we’re human beings. And quite honestly I feel the same way about women who would only marry a white collar professional over someone in the trades. As for Hunt, she seems to be advocating for people to stay single in general which is just.. .no. Many people enjoy being in relationships.
Anyway, I had an aunt and uncle (siblings) who both got married when they were in their 20s, had families, and then divorced when the kids were maybe preteens. Both have since met new partners. My uncle has been with his for 23 years while my aunt has been with hers for at least over a decade. There are no rules. -
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