You say that for a child to lead a happy life they need a mother AND a father. What about single parents? Are you claiming that if a family splits up due to divorce or perhaps death, the equally loving mother/father should not have custody of their own children? Many successful people like Oprah Winfrey were raised by a single parent and she is one of the most strong women recognised today! Children do not need a mother and father to lead happy, fulfilling lives. They need an ACCEPTING and LOVING environment where they feel SAFE. Regardless of who they were brought up by.