This post has not been vetted or endorsed by BuzzFeed's editorial staff. BuzzFeed Community is a place where anyone can create a post or quiz. Try making your own!Buzz·Posted on Mar 2, 201511 Of The Worst Things You Can Say To Someone Struggling With Infertility"Are you sure you're doing right?" — Your momby Jane Hollier BrownCommunity ContributorFacebookPinterestTwitterMailLink 1. “Are you pregnant yet?” Tap to play GIF Tap to play GIF CW / Via giphy.com No, are you tactful yet? 2. “Maybe having children is not in God’s plan for you.” Tap to play GIF Tap to play GIF CBS / Via giphy.com What may be comforting to some is deeply insulting to others. Infertility can feel like a personal failing and by putting it down to simply not being in God’s plan, you are throwing our suffering in our face. 3. “Just be patient.” Tap to play GIF Tap to play GIF Warner Bros. / Via giphy.com Imagine yourself in our shoes and what it would be like if someone kept telling you to be patient for something you desperately want and may never have. 4. “Have you tried the fertility diet?” Tap to play GIF Tap to play GIF CityTV / Via giphy.com Or acupuncture? Or sleeping with your pelvis tilted at a 45 degree angle? Or Googling fertility spells? Yep, we’ve tried literally everything. 5. “At least you still get to sleep in on weekends!” Tap to play GIF Tap to play GIF HBO / Via giphy.com 6. “Everything happens for a reason.” Tap to play GIF Tap to play GIF The CW / Via giphy.com When you’re struggling with infertility, every month is an emotional rollercoaster of hope and anticipation, followed by heartbreaking disappointment. Please don’t tell us there’s a reason for this. We’d rather you acknowledge how much it sucks and mourn with us. 7. “Why don’t you just adopt?” Tap to play GIF Tap to play GIF Nexflix / Via giphy.com “Just” adopt? Adoption should not be treated like a consolation prize or like a quick fix to someone’s yearning for a biological child. It’s a deeply personal choice, a huge decision, and there’s nothing “just” about it. 8. “I got pregnant my very first cycle off the pill.” Tap to play GIF Tap to play GIF Walt Disney Pictures / Via giphy.com We’re truly happy for you, but is it necessary to rub it in? 9. “Even though you miscarried, at least you know you can get pregnant.” Tap to play GIF Tap to play GIF HBO / Via giphy.com File this under: “highly insensitive.” 10. “You just must be too stressed.” Tap to play GIF Tap to play GIF Fox / Via giphy.com You know what’s stressing me out? This conversation. 11. “Well at least you can have fun trying!” Tap to play GIF Tap to play GIF ITV / PBS / Via giphy.com Sadly, IVF can kill your sex drive, but...you’re not completely wrong. *Winks suggestively* So what should you do? Tap to play GIF Tap to play GIF SONY Pictures / Via giphy.com Offer your support, love, and an endless supply of hugs.