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her TikTok, Evelyn talked about the following three sources:
1) The male "pick me" behavior: By this, she means a mentality of, “I’m not one of them; I’m one of the good guys.”
However, Evelyn says that this mentality is a total delusion, because everyone in a patriarchy (regardless of gender identity) has internalized misogyny and sexism that require unlearning.
2) The need to control women’s voices: Evelyn points out that men who say "not all men" are tone-policing women rather than directing their energy toward men who are actively harming women.
3) The male superiority complex: Evelyn elaborates that a man might understand that other men out there may be "bad," and by saying "not all men," he's trying to communicate that he is not one of them and that he's therefore dependable, because he will protect women from male violence.
The problem, Evelyn explains, is that this instills a fear of independence in women, because it implies that the real solution to male violence is another man.