"When you're mad or resentful, say so! Don't keep things in, or hope your partner can figure out why you're unhappy. No one can read your mind, even the one who loves you the most. When you argue, stick to what you’re angry about. Don't call names, bring up old stuff or disparage your spouse. When you get to the point that you feel like walking away (and everyone does at one point or another), stop to remember at least three times your partner was the best thing in your life. Then take a deep breath, hold on to the memories of those joys, and go back to loving her/him."
—Elizabeth Belden Handler, married 40 years