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Having had many first dates when I was single, I oftentimes wondered what the best venue was. I tried to put my place in my dates' shoes and think of what I would like to do. Is the date going to be a casual meet up or a full on dinner and a show? If this was the first time we would be interacting as a couple, I would opt for a casual meeting so we would get to know each other. This would allow me (or both of us really) to determine if there's any chemistry or spark to continue on to the second date. The first thing I wanted to do was ensure it was in public. This was to set my date at ease for safety concerns, and also adds openness to the date (i.e. I am not afraid of being seen in public with you). The one thing that is important to remember that it is a date, no matter how casual it may be, and the intention is to set the stage for a romantic relationship with this person. I say this because I know many men (and women) who may consider it something else… meeting a friend for coffee, a potential hook-up, some random person, etc. When you put it in the right perspective and have the right attitude, the date goes much smoother and increases the chances for a second date. The second thing I would look for is type of venue, and is it appropriate for a first date? Going to a comedy show may be fun, but if the humor isn't her style, it may backfire. Same thing with going to something too private like a movie. You want to interact on your date, not just spend a couple of hours in a dark theater together (without touching that is). If the date is a meet up type of date, go to a place that serves appetizers or light snacks and some sort of drink. A wine bar is a great idea and so is a coffee shop. If it's a dinner type date, bring her to someplace where she can order something small without seeming out of place. Many guys I know like to show off by bringing their date to the most expensive restaurant they know which can make it awkward for the woman—she may feel guilty ordering something so expensive on a first date. Sushi is a good idea (so much ordering variety), Spanish Tapas is another (small plates with almost infinite possibilities), or Mexican. It's also awkward to go to a restaurant where you take a doggy bag out, especially if you plan some activity afterwards.The last determination to make is how intimate the date will become? This is almost a taboo subject to many, and most guys go on every date hoping it will end in bed, and disappointed when it doesn't. If you are looking for a hook-up, this isn't the article you should be reading, but if you are looking for more than one date, always leave on a high note. If you are meeting at a coffee shop or wine bar, say goodnight after your second cup of coffee or second glass of wine. If it's a dinner date, after dinner plan to go somewhere that has a live band (if possible), or a place that you can take a nice walk; someplace that you have distraction AND can talk to each other. For the longer date, spend only a short time at the second part… a first date over a few hours can usually end up with you divulging too much personal information too soon, and that can be a real turn off. If the date goes well, tell her that you had a good time. I think that a quick text after you get home is a great way to solidify that you are thinking about her and looking forward to spending more time together. Finally, (and guys are especially bad at this) call her the next day if you want to see her again! There is too much made about how long to wait—this is ridiculous, the longer you wait to call her, the lower your chances are to see her again. I guarantee if there was chemistry, she will be waiting for your call. If there isn't, you will probably know before parting ways; this is why I always used a quick meet-up first. Remember, the person you want to win over feels the same way as you do; nervous, intimidated and a little scared to seem too anxious too soon. A great quote that sums this up is, "If you are out on a date, you have already done everything well- your job is to not screw it up!" - Hitch
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