Things That People Need To Saying To Overweight Kids And Teenagers

There are just some things that you should never say to a fat kid or teenager. Here are a few.

1. "When you hit puberty you will shoot up like a tree and the weight will just melt away."

STOP- Some children do become taller after puberty and slim down, but that is not true for all. I can not express to you how painful it was to wake up on the morning of my thirteenth birthday and not have magically shed forty pounds.

2. "You are cute now, but you will be beautiful/handsome once you lose the weight."

Thanks? Receiving the confirmation that I was only marginally attractive was exactly what I needed as I was developing my body image.

3. "DANCE! DANCE! JUST SHAKE IT"

Knock it off. Too many "fat" kids are growing up and thinking that the only way that they will be accepted is to provide comic relief or to allow others to make light of their weight. There is a thin line between laughing with or at.

4. "Hey Big_"

A lot of us fat kids hated being called "Big_", but were too scared of rejection to say anything about it. I didn't consent to being called that. Yes I am a big girl, but I also happen to be Black and Queer. No one calls me "Black Lesbo Taylor". Do see how ridiculous that sounds?!

5. "Whats up Tiny"

Funny

6. "When you are older people will not care so much about your weight. It will be easier to find a boyfriend/girlfriend/partner."

LIAR, LIAR, PANTS ON FIRE. -Those shitty kids who make fun of you and don't want to date you for being fat become shitty adults who make fun of you and don't want to date you for being fat. For a lot of plus sized adults the dating pool can be difficult to navigate. A lot of us either run into closet chubby bangers or some random internet weirdo with a feederism fetish. There is someone for everyone kid but you may have to deal with a lot of bullshit to find them.

7. The moral of the story is this folks. Don't lie, don't make shit up, and don't give back handed compliments. If you don't have anything nice or uplifting to say then just don't. Otherwise, on behalf of fat kids everywhere