8 Things You Need To Hear In Your Twenties

8 things you need to hear when your anxiety burdened, unmotivated, fearful self needs some reassurance as you stumble into adulthood (sober or not).

1. It is okay not to have a full proof plan.

No matter how much you try to prepare for the future, it is okay to leave some things unknown. Making "full proof" plans often lead to unrealistic goals and disappointment. When these goals aren't met you're left crying on the floor to your dog while eating cold pizza from Saturday night...or was it Friday?

Give your plans some structure, but relax and let things happen.

2. Trust yourself.

Everyone is going to tell you how you should be doing things. Take this advice, but trust your gut feeling. And remember, you are the only one who will have to live with your decisions, so at least make them yours.

3. Take it at your own pace.

Yes you've hit 20, or maybe even 25 but just because your friends are graduating or engaged does not mean you have to be. Give yourself the time you need to live and enjoy. Take a gap year, go travelling, keep living with your parents (and saving rent money).

Things will get done in time.

4. Don't regret, grow.

Regret has a negative connotation associated with it, which shouldn't always be the case. Without mistakes and regrets we wouldn't grow, learn or appreciate all the good things. Regret should not be about recognizing your failures and punishing yourself. What it should be is a time for self reflection and growth.

5. You are not the first to experience what you're going through.

Sometimes it may feel like you are alone when dealing with situations or making decisions. You try talking to people but just can't seem to find anyone who understands. In a world of of 7.4 billion people just remember that somewhere, someone is going through what you are going through and that you're both going to make it out alive.

6. It is okay to need extra help.

You have just spent at least 15 years of your life having dinner cooked and laundry done by your momma, it's no surprise you need extra help! Being in your 20's is your transition into "adulthood", no one gets things right the first time.

7. It is okay to need more than extra help.

The transition into adulthood isn't always easy. Change in general has a funny way of reeking havoc on our brains. Our routines become different, expectations change, and motivation (sometimes) hits an all time low. Don't be afraid to admit that you and your brain need the extra pick me up to get right back on track.

Talk to your doctor if you're having trouble adjusting. He/she may suggest counselling, therapy or behaviour classes all of which your brain (and overall happiness) with thank you for later!

8. You're doing a good job.

You've made it this far, isn't that something to celebrate?