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    "Your Triggers Are Your Responsibility," And 16 Other Pieces Of Advice From Therapists That Are Hard To Hear

    "You're keeping the peace around you, but what about the peace within you?"

    Have you ever wished you could collect the knowledge of therapists everywhere for your own psychological benefit? Well, luckily, there's Twitter.

    People are sharing the advice their therapists have given them that has actually stuck with them, and WHEW...I fear some of these really hit home.

    Here are some of the most viral answers:

    1.

    told my therapist that i’ve lost a few friends since i started setting firm personal boundaries and she said,”it’s amazing how many people no longer find you useful when you’re harder to control” !!!!!!!!!!

    Twitter: @bigsiha

    2.

    my therapist told me, “if you don’t love yourself, you’ll be stuck chasing people who wont love you either” & that almost gave me a heart attack

    Twitter: @gIitering

    3.

    My therapist just told me, “If you’re ALWAYS having to be the bigger person, maybe you shouldn’t be around so many little people.”

    Twitter: @avayonce

    4.

    I told my therapist that I let some things slide that bother me to “keep the peace” and he told me “that sounds nice, but you’re keeping the peace around you....what about the peace in you” Now I just been saying whatever is on my mind.

    Twitter: @TonyMatrimony

    5.

    My therapist told me that anxious people have tendency to only explore the scary “what ifs” and challenged me to remember that there is also a flip side. What if you excel? What if it is one of the best experiences of your life? What if it changes you in a beautiful way?

    Twitter: @__BHB__

    6.

    A therapist said if you self isolate when overwhelmed you probably had to solve a lot of your problems alone as a child

    Twitter: @BriHallOfficial

    7.

    @f8the My therapist told me last night that trying to date emotionally unavailable people is like going to Home Depot for lemons. They don’t sell lemons at Home Depot.

    Twitter: @k_dans

    8.

    @f8the My therapist told me to stop making happiness my end goal. Because what is happiness? It’s an emotion. Just like sadness, and anger. You are allowed to feel them. But trying to make happiness the end goal releases unrealistic expectations onto you that end up in disappointment.

    Twitter: @latoxicaz

    9.

    My therapist: Y’know, intellectualizing your emotions instead of actually feeling them is still avoiding them and it isn’t really good for your mental health. Your logical skills won’t help you with this. Me:

    Twitter: @random_weighs

    10.

    My therapist dropped a gem: you can’t spend your life avoiding heartbreak or bad things from happening. You have to condition yourself to have appropriate emotional responses but learn to keep moving forward.

    Twitter: @jhala_c

    11.

    I wanna share something my therapist said about ✨anger✨ that blew my mind: "Your anger is the part of you that knows your mistreatment and abuse are unacceptable. Your anger knows you deserve to be treated well, and with kindness. Your anger is a part of you that LOVES you."

    Twitter: @apocalynds

    12.

    one thing my therapist reminded me is that depression doesn’t always come in the form of sadness. it can also present itself as apathy & numbness. having no interest, not caring, no desire to really do much, not taking care of oneself, focusing on everything besides your care

    Twitter: @kemimarie

    13.

    One of the most helpful things a therapist told me was “your triggers are your responsibility.” Cause though difficult to hear, she was absolutely correct.

    Twitter: @keatingssixth

    14.

    the best advice my first therapist ever gave me was that a lot of my self-deprecating jokes were leading to genuine self-deprecating thought patterns. I thought I was just poking fun but I was actually reaffirming harmful self-hating tendencies

    Twitter: @olivebrinker

    15.

    My therapist yesterday was so excellent & gave the advice that if you feel like you're going to cry or lose it, realize that you're processing grief. We're losing parts of our way of life for now or permanently, and mourning it is completely natural.

    Twitter: @kittenwithawhip

    16.

    i once told my therapist that maybe i felt things too much and too strongly and she just told me to never be ashamed of my heart,,, not a day goes by where i dont think about that https://t.co/OcRkNTEWzo

    Twitter: @Peteyful

    17. And lastly:

    thinking about the time my ex demanded I see a therapist and then the therapist told me to dump him

    Twitter: @coolauntV

    So, do you agree with these pieces of advice? Which was your favorite? Tell us in the comments below!!! 💕💕