So this is what it feels like growing up in this world…you see yourself competing all the time. Self esteem is thrown down the drain. School is all about popularity. College life is all about "sick nights" that are drunk nights you can't remember the next day. Stress busters involve smoking, doing drugs and drinking. Someone without a flat stomach or a thigh gap is considered fat. Your work is compared to others in order to see who's better and who's worse. Bitching and backstabbing just to get ahead in the social radar is the new trend. Talking about trend, exposing your body is what the fashion line is following. Mind sets are growing stronger and stronger and people want to be more independent than adjusting, which obviously leads to many more heart breaks. We do not earn for security we earn to rule. Peer pressure is the new crime we fall prey of. Wanting to be famous or interesting in order to be looked up to or feared is the new demand. Wanting to break hearts and play around with emotions is the new thing. Instead of resources being used and people being loved, people are being used and resources are being loved.
Whatever happened to honesty? What happened to just being innocent all over again? Craving to live and explore the world, longing for nights that you can never forget, loving a person not on how they look but on the purity of the heart…in fact, what happened to having a pure heart? No greed, no scheming, no bitching, no cravings for success and only success. What happened to using sports, exercise, lying down near the pool/beach, dancing all night, just having a good laugh with friends or even reading as a better stress buster?
What happened to spending time with others instead of shoving our faces into electronic gadgets? Genuine conversations, beautiful words, laughter, eye contact, concentration, expressions. We want to capture the moment more than live it, and then we crib it went by too fast.
2 year olds are busy with ipads and youtube instead of rolling around in mud and playing in gardens. Don't you think that is way too sad? Where is the childhood? Where is the innocence?How can parents put on a cartoon during a family dinner in a restaurant just so that they don't have to deal with the child's cribbing so he eats food quietly. Where is the interaction and the care? And then we blame them for always watching television or being too much on the phone.
What happened to not caring how we look and enjoying our lives instead? Makeup, nose jobs, hair extensions, boyfriends are all kids think about these days. And then we crib that we grew up way too fast.
What happened to dressing up in the classic manner and still looking sexy? The mentality that a person can't look sexy without showing off her boobs or ass is what is making girls dress up in a, as many people call it, a slutty manner. Why do boys think girls dress up to impress them and not feel good about themselves? Because 90% of them do, if not all the time but many times.
What happened to chivalry? The romance? The shyness and nervousness in a first date? The holding hands after hesitation, the nervousness before a first kiss? Politeness and courtesy? The suits and ties? The gentlemen and the ladies? Snapbacks and swag really doesn't cut it. Loyalty and love has just reduced. Are we really that dumb to give up on a person who has learnt to play the right strings of our heart so we can explore more options, countries and sizes? Are we really that desperate of someones touch or love that we end up cheating just because of a fight and say we were vulnerable? In order to go around looking for "the one", we tend to break too many hearts without even trying to make things work. Being egoistic and strong minded is like the guide to another unhealthy relationship. We are desperate to be understood but forget to be understanding. What happened to that passionate love? The one where you grow weaker with love and you trust the other person fully with your heart. The affection. The dedication. The butterflies. The rush. They say the crazy loves are the ones that last the longest, but why not the simple but deep ones too? What happened to trying to make things work and adjusting? All we say is that "he/she doesn't understand me".
What happened to accepting that everyone is different in their own work? That everyone has a different aptitude and goal in life. Talking about goals, why have the goals changed from wanting to explore every little bit of yourself and getting out every little outcome you possibly can from within, to seeing how many hookups you can do in one night?
Our self esteem is so low because every second of the day we compare ourselves to others.."that girl is so thin, look at me", "she is so famous at my age, why am I not?", etc. Ask yourself this question - what are the 5 things you extremely love about yourself and which you think is different from others? Most of the people wont be able to think of even 3. Isn't that quite sad? What is so wrong with staying strong and not falling prey to wrong company? Have we actually grown that weak as a person that we can't even stand up for ourselves? Are we really that afraid of being ourselves? Are we building walls and burning bridges too fast in order to avoid our ego getting hurt? We don't love ourselves, which includes every dark and deep part, and we expect others to? And then we go around feeling unloved and worthless. What happened to wanting to be different? Sheep mentality is the new rein. We say we are trying to make our own identity but how is that supposed to happen when we are wanting to become like others? When will we realise that if everyone is similar the world will be the most tedious place to live in. When will we appreciate everyone as a whole different individual and stop comparing how they work, talk, dress up, comprehend, adjust, say, or do? All we care about is what people may think or say or what the society may talk about about you, instead of just doing what you think is right.
What happened to choosing happiness as a life goal instead of wealth, fame and fortune? How is it possible to have so much greed? The poorest of people are the most generous and the richest are the most selfish. Maybe that's why the needy are way happier and the affluent are lonely. The problem is we all have this picture painted in our heads of how we want our lives to be but instead of working for it and not cribbing about every bump in the way, we lay back and wait for it to happen, because "its destined". And when there is no result we are disappointed. Our expectations are way too high and that's what screws with us the most. Making the best out of everything that comes in our way is foreign.
Everyone talks about wanting to change the world. Why can't people see that you don't have to go around looking for answers how to? Why cant they see the power is in themselves? It's all in their mentality, their habits, their love, their want, their care, their heart. The minute people start to look for happiness and make that their main goal in life, the world will change.
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