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This Guy Hired A Personal Friendship Coach And It Freaking Worked

"I am EXTREMELY awkward."

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Steven wanted to become better at making friends, so he took the plunge and hired a friendship coach.

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Dr. Liz Laugeson said that some people struggle with "social cognition," which is "a person's ability to pick up on social cues and understand another person's point of view."

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This could be part of what makes Steven so anxious about social situations.

Coach Debra Joy's first tip was for Steven to practice just saying hi to people, and see what happens.

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Building up so much pressure on making something perfect can make it harder for you to be relaxed and pay attention in the interaction.

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Keith gave Steven challenges to stretch his social comfort, starting with an easy one: Talk to someone new every single day.

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Echoing what Debra said, Keith reminded Steven, "A good conversation doesn't have to come from the first person you talk to. The first person you talk to might be busy."

Steven talked to some strangers on the street, but two ladies he spoke to "thought I was going to rob them." His coach advised him to take breaths and stay in the moment whenever he felt overwhelmed.

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Those common interests really were key, as Steven and Zack gabbed about basketball super easily.

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Steven even asked Zack if he wanted to shoot hoops sometimes. (So basically, they're friendship engaged now.)

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This would be a big challenge. Steven says he prefers Facebook Messenger and drinking at home to going to loud, crowded bars. "There's people there, and it smells, and it's dark."

Finally, Steven gave his very own Social Protip, saying he learned that if you just "focus on the other person, that's when I can be a better friend."

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"You started to hold awkward moments more lightly," his friendship coach said.

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