Videos·Apr 7, 2016This Guy Hired A Personal Friendship Coach And It Freaking Worked"I am EXTREMELY awkward."by Steven Lim, Sophie Carter-Kahn, Zack Evans, Keith HabersbergerFacebookPinterestTwitterMailLink Steven wanted to become better at making friends, so he took the plunge and hired a friendship coach. View this video on YouTube youtube.com / Via youtu.be This is Steven. He describes himself as "extremely awkward." Buzzfeed Video "You don't know exactly how to interact with him." His coworkers lovingly agreed. Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF Buzzfeed Video So, Steven decided to TAKE ACTION. Steven hired a life coach for a week to help him "overcome awkwardness and make new friends." Buzzfeed Video LET'S DO THIS. "Sometimes I feel paralyzed and awkward in conversations." Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF Buzzfeed Video These feelings and fears all started when Steven was younger, and they've never really gone away. Dr. Liz Laugeson said that some people struggle with "social cognition," which is "a person's ability to pick up on social cues and understand another person's point of view." Buzzfeed Video This could be part of what makes Steven so anxious about social situations. Coach Debra Joy's first tip was for Steven to practice just saying hi to people, and see what happens. Buzzfeed Video Building up so much pressure on making something perfect can make it harder for you to be relaxed and pay attention in the interaction. To just go all in on pushing himself out of his comfort zone, Steven recruited "the most social person" he knows: KEITH. Buzzfeed Video Keith gave Steven challenges to stretch his social comfort, starting with an easy one: Talk to someone new every single day. Buzzfeed Video Echoing what Debra said, Keith reminded Steven, "A good conversation doesn't have to come from the first person you talk to. The first person you talk to might be busy." Steven talked to some strangers on the street, but two ladies he spoke to "thought I was going to rob them." His coach advised him to take breaths and stay in the moment whenever he felt overwhelmed. Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF Buzzfeed Video He went to socialize in the BuzzFeed canteen, but got too stressed out before he even walked in. Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF Buzzfeed Video "I kinda froze." For his second challenge, Keith told Steven to engage his friend crush in conversation. Buzzfeed Video Steven confessed that his friend crush is Zack Evans, and it was adorable. Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF Buzzfeed Video With Debra's advice ringing in his ears, Steven prepared to make the first friendship overtures to Zack. Buzzfeed Video ALthough he was prepared for the worst, the conversation actually went SO WELL. Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF Buzzfeed Video Look at that blossoming bromance. Those common interests really were key, as Steven and Zack gabbed about basketball super easily. Buzzfeed Video Steven even asked Zack if he wanted to shoot hoops sometimes. (So basically, they're friendship engaged now.) Close to the end of the week, Keith was KICKING IT UP A NOTCH. Buzzfeed Video He challenged Steven to talk to, get to know, and buy a drink for a complete stranger at a bar. Keith gave tips about easy convo starters to put in Steven's back pocket. Buzzfeed Video "Like....'I love you?'" "No! Like, 'It's St. Patrick's Day!'" This would be a big challenge. Steven says he prefers Facebook Messenger and drinking at home to going to loud, crowded bars. "There's people there, and it smells, and it's dark." Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF Buzzfeed Video SAME THO, STEVEN. Once again, Steven KILLED it. He bought this dude a drink and had a great convo with him. Buzzfeed Video Go Steven GOOO! On to the final challenge: having someone over for a hang. Buzzfeed Video Steven had cruised through all the other challenges, but he confessed that this would be the FIRST TIME he invited a friend over to his apartment. Buzzfeed Video He invited <3 Zack <3 over for some bro time. Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF Buzzfeed Video ...And it went REALLY WELL. Zack told Steven that he's actually an introvert also, just one who likes hanging out with other people. Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF Buzzfeed Video They both get their energy back from alone time. Finally, Steven gave his very own Social Protip, saying he learned that if you just "focus on the other person, that's when I can be a better friend." Buzzfeed Video "You started to hold awkward moments more lightly," his friendship coach said. If this isn't a goddam victory story I don't know what is. Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF Buzzfeed Video GOOD JOB, STEVEN!