We asked the BuzzFeed Community to tell us the moments they knew it was time to get a divorce. Here are the wild and emotional results.
1."He was caught cheating. I should have been upset, but I felt nothing. That's when I told him it was time for him to go."
2."I was in the hospital for 15 days while recovering from kidney surgery. I realized I had fallen out of love with my ex-husband when he didn't even visit or call me once..."
3."I knew I had to end things after he told me that he had been keeping a secret diary of all the things I did 'wrong...'"
4."I knew it was time to get a divorce when my ex treated me like a roommate instead of a spouse."
5."After years of staying home with our three children while my husband built his career, I told him that I needed a change. I wanted to start working and get my master's degree. He told me I wasn't allowed. My 'role' was to stay home and raise the children, while his role was to go out and work for the family..."
6."I knew it was time to go when I envisioned having a son and him growing up to be exactly like my ex. Realizing how disappointed I would be in myself if I raised my son to be the type of person my ex was definitely let me know I had to end it..."
7."My mom knew it was time to get divorced when her blood sugar was over 500 and my dad wouldn’t get up from his nap to take her to the emergency room."
8."When I found out that she was sleeping with not one, but two of my closest friends."
9."I knew my marriage was over when, after losing my sister and my job around the same time and spiraling into a deep depression, my husband got mad at me for being so depressed...."
10."I knew it was time for a divorce when our seven-week-old daughter was in the NICU for five days, and he went golfing. Twice."
11."For months, he said that he didn't love me anymore. I was devastated. We went to counseling, he talked endlessly about how our marriage wasn't working, and I constantly begged him to let me show him it was..."
12."One day my husband came home and told me he’d always love me in a certain way, but he was going to start sleeping with other women. He said I'd 'just have to learn to deal with it.' That's when I knew I had to end the marriage."
13."We were in therapy, and I broke down in tears. He laughed. The therapist said that her goal was always to save a marriage, but that I needed to get out. She was right. I'm now happily married to someone else."
14."After four years of marriage, we ended up stuck in our house for an entire week due to some flooding, and in that week we barely spoke. We did nothing to make each other laugh or smile. I realized that we were more like roommates..."
15."I had to get a routine operation, and all I could think about was that if I died during surgery, I would be free of him. That's when I knew I didn't want to spend the rest of my life with him."
16."Five years into our marriage, I spent all day cleaning the house from top to bottom. My only request was that my husband wash the dishes. At the end of my cleaning rampage, I found the sink to be exactly as I left it, full of dirty dishes..."
17.And "I found out that my mother was dying, and I was in shock. I needed comforting, but he said he had to go to his friend’s barbecue and couldn’t stay with me. Immediately after that, I left him."