Ryan O.

"My self-esteem is a jigsaw I cannot complete. I get one part of the picture and the rest lies in pieces. I suspect that there is no picture, only fragments. Other people seem to glue it together somehow and not to worry that they have been using pieces from several different boxes. So what is the answer? Is identity a deceit, a make-shift, and should we hurry to make any pattern we can? Or is there a coherence, perhaps a beauty, if it were possible to find it? I would like to convince myself but I cannot. The best there is are days when the jigsaw assumes its own meaning and I no longer care what picture is emerging." - Jeanette Winterson, Gut Symmetries "Ladies are the kind of people who won't let my girlfriend use the public ladies' room, thinking she is not a woman. Oh, but they're not going to let her use the men's room either- they're not going to let her be a man either. If she's not a man and she's not a woman, then what is she? "Once, I asked my mother what fire was: a solid, liquid, or gas? And she said it was none of those things- it was something that happened to things: a force of nature she called it. "Maybe that's what she is: a force of nature. For sure, she is something that happened to me." -Holly Hughes

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