"Since I was a teenager, I saw my attraction to women as something related to a lack of self-esteem, something that bordered on a sort of 'I want to be that pretty' feminine rivalry.
I only realized the truth when I dated a woman and fell in love with her. And, because of that massive realization, I concluded that I must be a lesbian. After all, relationships with men were almost always tense and marred by a lot of chauvinism and gender expectations (that I thought I always disappointed).
But then, I met a guy who I got along with from the beginning, and I realized that I liked him. That was another story. 'WHAT? I'm not a lesbian? Why do I like a guy?'
So I realized that I was still interested in men. Sometimes affection and physical attraction go together, and other times they're separate. And I think that's the most difficult and painful thing to understand about bisexuality, because invisibility, even within the LGBT movement, makes it difficult for people to understand those nuances about us and about what we feel. Until we understand that, we feel like real ETs, outside all the constructed boxes and, many times, sad and alone." —Keyty Medeiros