Soccer Moms Make Me Sick!
So you think you're so perfect don't you? You have a perfect Hallmark family. Your hybrid SUV sits nestled in the driveway of your suburban home. The children are perfectly spaced apart in age making them close enough to relate to one another but far enough apart to be independent. The family dog is in the prime years of its healthy life. The neighbors all pretend to be your friends during the block party, but you know they are secretly jealous of your fairytale lives.
Yes… you have it all figured out. Well let me go ahead and drop the bombshell so you're less surprised when you wake up one day and realize it for yourself: YOUR LIFE IS FAR FROM PERFECT!
The family dog is going to die someday, the kids will grow older and eventually venture outside the proverbial white picket fence you built that protects them from the real world, and that perfect husband of yours is all of the sudden rubbernecking at the hot chick in the miniskirt walking down the street because you've been telling yourself for the past five years you're too busy with PTA meetings to worry about the health of your marriage.
This will all happen. Family pets don't live forever, our children grow up, and every hot bodied guy and girl eventually grows old and becomes a shell of his or her former self. Yet, today while everything is still "perfect", you don't hesitate to pass judgment and comment negatively when you see a half-naked young girl in her early twenties walking down the street on the arm of a 55-year-old man. You think to yourself things like: "Gold digging whore", or "She has no dignity", or "I would never have such low standards".
We all do this. We all pass judgment on other couples because we forget that not everyone views the world the way we do. We see a sugar daddy walking down the street the 20-year-old hot piece of ass and we assume they met online and that he's paying her in the form of a lavish lifestyle in exchange for having sex with him.
The truth is we're probably right.
Some people on dating websites are authentically interested in meeting "the one" and entering a long term relationship, some are there because they find flirting online to be an amusing way to kill several hours while looking for someone to have a conversation with, and some of them are looking for a mutually beneficial arrangement.
The common denominator with everyone actively online dating is that for whatever reason they are all trying to fill a hole in their lives, and none of them wish to spend life alone. All of them seek some form of companionship (be it emotional, social, sexual, or all of the above). Those who are lucky enough to find a great partner early in life and hang onto him or her are likely not suffering from the loneliness that online daters experience. Divorce rate is high in the United States because compatibility is difficult and financial hardship makes it even more difficult.
For this reason, many young men and women find themselves more and more turned on to arrangement dating.
Now before passing judgment, remember that arranged marriages have been around for centuries and are still a common practice in many cultures, religions, and socio-economic classes. In many cultures and subcultures, including within the United States, it is custom for fathers to marry their daughters off to men in order to gain or retain power, money, social status, or all of the above. Often times the husband a father chooses for his daughter is a much older man who she must learn to love as opposed to fall in love with.
This practice, while not the norm, is often defended and justified by cultural and religious beliefs and we find ourselves trying not to pass judgment because it's a "religious" thing or a "cultural" thing.
So before you comment or pass judgment the next time you see a 50-year-old sugar daddy showing off his 20-year-old arm candy ask yourself: Is it really that wrong?
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