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    23 Gender-Affirming Sex Toys And Products Reviewers Love

    Sometimes it takes a little *oomph* to become your most authentic self, be it makeup, clothes, or even a new sex toy.

    We hope you love the products we recommend! All of them were independently selected by our editors. Some may have been sent as samples, but all opinions and reviews are our own. Just so you know, BuzzFeed may collect a share of sales or other compensation from the links on this page if you decide to shop from them. Oh, and FYI — prices are accurate and items in stock as of time of publication.

    Let's be real: A lot of sex toys are gendered or marketed with gender-specific language, which sucks because we know gender isn't real and biology doesn't equal gender. It can be hard to get out of the his/her mindset, but at BuzzFeed Shopping, we're trying to be different, as in hella inclusive and making sure all bodies are represented with the sex toys we round up and recommend for you.

    This is a roundup of sex toys that members of the trans, enby, gender-fluid and genderqueer communities have reviewed and recommended as great options to use for pleasure [and/or to help with gender dysphoria]. These are the toys and products that make them feel their most authentic selves.

    That being said — there is a lack of gender-affirming pleasure products specifically made and/or designed for transwomen. I've included a few toys with reviews from transwomen and also some that can be used by people who are Intersex and/or AMAB. TL;DR: The lack of available products for transwomen is disheartening and unacceptable, as transwomen deserve to be represented and have more options included in roundups like this one.

    We hope that this is only one of many LGBTQ+ specific sex toy posts to come in the future, and that this helps prompt the creation of more products designed specifically for trans people and their pleasure in the future. If there are any trans-affirming or gender-affirming sex toys that you think we've missed, let us know in the comments!

    1. The Starsi vibrator, which combines function with full-on adorableness with its supple silicone design and unique star shape that curves and clings all over for out-of-this-world sensations.

    2. A Trinitii vibrator with seven suction modes, four flickering speeds in the tongue and 15 vibration modes for a multi-sensation experience and a memory function that allows you to start right back up where you finished.

    3. A popular hand-sculpted Shilo dildo by New York Toy Collective designed with a poseable core, so you're always ready to pack and play with this toy. It also comes in fleshtone and whimsical hues, so you can make sure your dick is the perfect extension of your truest self.

    4. A Love Bump attachment to pair with your favorite dildo to deliver lifelike sensations with each thrust. Plus it includes a 10-function bullet vibrator to help you get in a good rhythm.

    5. A closed 3-inch masturbator designed with 46 waves on the inside for a stimulating texture to help deliver a good solo (or partnered) time — plus you can call it a dick pill!

    Model holding blue stroker sleeve

    6. The Puff compact suction vibrator beloved by beginners and more experienced 'bators who enjoy riding the five intensities to climax over and over again.

    Model holding green suction vibrator

    7. An über-popular boxer brief harness that offers comfort and does away with complicated buckles and straps, so you can focus more on the actual pleasure of the moment.

    8. A convenient Flip-N-Tuck STP designed with a pee cup that flips out of the way when not in use, so you can wear this device as a packer throughout the day.

    Deep skintone uncircumcised packing stand-to-pee device with harness

    9. A stretchy, silicone sleeve that's reusable and boasts a unique interior pattern to deliver extra stimulation with each stroke and rub.

    Blue, white and pink masturbator sleeves with interior views of textures

    10. A fantasy packer for trans guys designed with a flexible tentacle in soft silicone, so you can adjust it to whatever fits your most authentic self.

    Green tentacle packer

    11. A unique pump designed especially for queer, trans-masc and nonbinary bodies to help increase sensation and stimulation of the genitals. A wide-flared base sets this pump apart and offers comfort during use.

    12. A delectable glass dildo that lives up to its name, Stellar, with a curvy design and weighted feeling to stimulate those hard-to-reach spots.

    Glass abstract dildo

    13. An FTM fantasy stroker, which is 4 inches long and has an opening just under an inch wide, offering a tight, but stimulating sensation that can be controlled with a simple stroking motion.

    Green Marri FTM stroker

    14. A Jack 2-in-1 stroker and packer, boasting representational hues and a ribbed cavity that provides suction to the wearer for a stimulating stroke session.

    Model holding assorted colors of Jack packer

    15. A powerful Ollie wand vibrator that boasts eight vibrating speeds and patterns for you to explore through its flexible, waterproof silicone head. Important to note that this vibe is rumbly, not buzzy. Enjoy.

    Model holding mint wand vibrator

    16. A dapper penguin clitoral stimulator designed with Satisfyer's unique air-pulse technology for noncontact suction and pulsation sensations at 11 different intensities.

    Model holding black and white penguin vibrator

    17. A pair of boxers designed specifically for packing with a side-loading pocket that helps secure your favorite packer, so you can have whatever size bulge fits your personality.

    18. The über-popular Sam the STP by New York Toy Collective that offers versatile use from packing, peeing and playing for GNC, Trans-guys, enby, gender-fluid and gender-queer people who have been looking for the perfect penis. This might be it.

    Assorted colors of Sam STP device

    19. An 8-inch 2-in-1 packing dildo, designed with a flexible shaft and a hole at the tip to create blow job-like suction for the wearer during play.

    20. The best-selling Mason dildo, designed with an 8-inch insertable length because bigger bodies deserve the same gratifying stimulation as smaller ones. Literally, this dildo was created for anyone who has and/or loves bellies, butts and penetration.

    21. A minimalist vibrator that boasts three speeds and a tapered tip for targeted stimulation. This vibe includes a convenient canvas carrying bag for when you eventually decide to take it on the go.

    Model holding clay minimalist vibrator

    22. A 6-inch, über-realistic stand-to-pee (STP) device constructed of soft silicone that's flexible enough to pack but stable enough to avoid spills. This STP device has a unique funnel designed with a splash guard, so just: firmly grasp, aim and pee.

    23. A vibrating silicone plug from Unbound that's sure to shake things up with its tapered end and ring handle for easy insertion and removal.

    Model holding purple vibrating anal plug

    You, next time you step out as your most authentic self:

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