I've always regarded teaching as a kind of gardening. One can only plant seeds of ideas or questions and hope they will grow. What’s needed now are far more seed planters—and multi-pronged approaches to not only planting seeds, but also to tending to their growth over time. Our media landscape--where young people spend considerable time--needs to be filled with movies and shows that model effective and honest communication. We need schools to implement comprehensive sex ed classes across the country that teach the value of communication and consent to all students. We need to ensure that kids learn media literacy so they have a fighting chance at talking back to a culture that continues to sell them toxic narratives about power, intimacy, sex, and gender. We need parents to place just as high a premium on meaningful sex education as they do on academics and athletics. And we need fathers--or other male role models--to step up to the plate. One of the homework assignments I give to boys is to ask their fathers or male mentors what their hopes are for their sons. Most of the boys complete this homework and return to class saying their fathers or mentors hope they will become kind, loving, considerate men. This is not surprising to me. Yet, I remain confounded by the gap between these hopes and how fathers are actually showing up. Let me explain: I’ve been able to do a lot of the specialized workshops I do because groups of mothers contact me. These mothers want more from their schools. They want more for their daughters, and they want more for their sons. What frequently strikes me in my workshops is that very few girls or boys say their fathers signed them up. In fact, in most of the workshops I offer to parents on how to talk to teens/pre-teens about sex, consent, and decision-making, it’s concerned mothers who fill the room. Fathers, for the most part, remain conspicuously absent. What I tell fathers when they do show up—and some do—is that men’s silence or absence from these conversations communicates volumes to their children, their partners, and their communities. Their silence or absence communicates (whether they intend it to or not) the persistent belief that sexism, sexual harassment, sexual assault, and "bad sex" are women's issues--and therefore women's problems. But these men--the ones who are actually showing up for these conversations--are not the ones who need to be hearing this because they're already in the room. But I tell them anyway in the hopes they’ll talk to other men and remind them that their sons need their support in order to live into the hopes they have for them. Their sons need them to model that this matters--and that they, too, have a stake in changing our world. Their sons need them to model that what's more important than having all the answers is having lots of great questions. After a recent workshop of mine, one of the fathers came up to me and asked, “So, Natasha, how do I get more men to show up?” I didn't have an answer for him. But I thought his question was a great place to start.