Da Brat And Judy Dupart Are Happily Pregnant, But The Reason They Didn't Choose A Black Sperm Donor Is Devastating

    "We had no idea going into this our chances of a Black donor would be slim to none."

    Rapper Da Brat and her wife Jesseca “Judy” Dupart are expecting a baby, but the details they shared about their fertility journey started a vigorous online debate.

    Da Brat and her wife Judy Dupart cradle Da Brat's pregnant belly as they get their photo taken

    In the newest season of their reality show, Brat Loves Judy, the couple opened up about their desire to match with a Black sperm donor and how the limited options they found affected their decision.

    A closeup of Da Brat and Judy Dupart

    After browsing the database for a few seconds, they realized that maybe the search wouldn't play out the way they expected.

    Da Brat and Judy say that out of thousands of donors and down to 224, about only one donor was Black

    And then Dr. Obehi Asemota, their fertility doctor, dropped a hard truth.

    The couple was rightfully shocked, but Da Brat tried to lighten the mood with a joke about the limited number of Black donor options — which I knew wouldn't sit well with the internet.

    After Judy asks, "So our baby daddy can't be Black?" and Da Brat says, "Yeah if you look like Jiminy Cricket. The one or two Black people I saw, that thing is not, that thing ain't finna be looking like my child"

    Speaking to The Root about the new season, the couple opened up about why they ultimately decided on a white donor. “Because we didn’t have a lot to choose from, he definitely wasn’t Black,” Da Brat said. “But, I think we did a great job with picking. He’s handsome, he’s tall, and I think he’s going to look beautiful with my wife’s egg.”

    Judy and Da Brat holding her pregnant belly

    Da Brat's Jiminy Cricket joke, paired with the quotes she gave to The Root, went viral, and the couple's final decision received a lot of mixed reactions:

    A comment saying "the couple didn't not wanting a brown baby. We want America to love us see but we don't love us. They had money and means to find a suitable Black donor if that's what they truly wanted"
    A comment saying, "There's plenty of Black donors. They didn't want one because they didn't want a fully Black child. Don't try to insult our intelligence"
    A comment saying that "it's a known fact that Black sperm donors are very limited"

    Judy responded to the criticism in a series of Instagram videos. In the caption, she broke down her response into seven parts:

    Judy says that she wants to clarify that they didn't choose their donor based on looks and accusations that they didn't want a Black donor

    1. On not realizing the makeup of the donor pool:

    Judy says, "We had no idea going into this that our chances of a Black donor would be slim to none"

    2. On finding out she carried genetic risks:

    She says they didn't know that she was a carrier of so many disorders

    3. On dealing with a limited timeline:

    She says that their window was so slim and such high risk 'cause of age and more

    4. On her disorders reducing their chances for a Black donor:

    She says that she's a carrier of 4 disorders and that reduced their chances of a Black donor down to 1 person and that they had very limited info to judge on

    5. On people not being educated about the IVF process:

    She says that there are a lot of factors in the process such as a lack of Black donors, genetic testing, and age where most your eggs are gone

    6. On media creating a distorted narrative about their decision:

    She says the headlines are misleading about them choosing a donor based on looks and not attempting to find a Black donor

    7. And on their final choice being the best for their future baby:

    She says their baby was created with a healthy baby first mindset

    As a potential Black sperm donor, I agree that Da Brat’s Jiminy Cricket joke was harsh, but it’s not their choice that bothered me. In fact, I don't believe their right to choose whatever donor they want should ever be questioned. The statistics that helped complicate their decision are upsetting— so I'm going to take some accountability here.

    According to an analysis from The Washington Post, “Black sperm donors represent just a fraction of available supply — fewer than 2 percent at the country’s four largest sperm banks.”

    A sperm bank

    And the possible reasons behind the shortage are heartbreaking:

    Cryobanks can fail to recruit Black donors because the selection process requires three generations of medical history. Black men statistically didn't have access to quality healthcare for generations, making historical medical record-gathering more challenging because of racial disparities in America.

    A leg chain

    Cryobanks also exclude donors with felony convictions, and ethnic disparities in the criminal justice system disproportionately affect Black men.

    A silhouette of a person in prison

    Finally, there’s a mistrust of the healthcare system by Black men because of that very same historically racist discrimination.

    A Black person in a hospital bed

    So, instead of criticizing Da Brat and Judy’s fertility journey and their right to choose, I take this as a reminder that many imbalanced and, frankly, racist social forces in America have a pervasive negative effect on Black people — in wealth distribution, healthcare, criminal justice, education and even somewhere you're not expecting it, like fertility.

    A closeup of Da Brat and Judy

    The bottom line is there's more to this story than meets the eye, and it's worth considering how we got here.