Hi, I'm Morgan, and within three days of my daughter's birth I started to experience extreme symptoms of postpartum depression and obsessive-compulsive disorder; emphasis on the obsessive.
And still, people assumed I was experiencing the most joyful time of my life — and had a lot to say about it.
All of the photos throughout this post are of women in the midst of experiencing postpartum mental illness, ranging from depression and anxiety, to PTSD and psychosis. They were submitted via this Facebook thread.
1. "So was it love at first sight?"
2. "You must be so happy."
3. "Has [insert partner here] changed any diapers yet?"
4. "Oh, you have to join a baby class. I was so depressed until I met other new parents."
5. "I have the perfect essential oil for you."
6. "Why haven't you called me back?"
7. "Just let me know how I can help."
8. "But your child is over a year old."
9. "You should've breastfed."
10. "You're probably just tired."
11. "You have a healthy baby! Be grateful!"
12. "So many people can't even have babies. You are blessed."
13. "Maybe if you started working out and lost that baby weight you'd feel better."
14. "You worry too much."
15. "But you seem fine."
16. "You just need to get out more."
17. "I'm hurt that you didn't tell me sooner."
I know what you're thinking. "But Morgan, you just listed everything anyone ever says to new parents. And what if I don't even know they're suffering?"
So what can you say?
To learn more about postpartum depression, check out the resources at the National Institute of Mental Health here.
And if you need to talk to someone immediately, you can reach the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255) and or the Crisis Text Line by texting HOME to 741741. Suicide helplines outside the US can be found here.