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    Taraji P. Henson And Her Fiancé Kelvin Hayden Have Split, But The Lessons She Learned From It Are Inspiring

    "My happiness is not his responsibility and his happiness is not mine."

    Taraji P. Henson and Kelvin Hayden have officially called it quits.

    Taraji Henson and Kelvin Hayden attend Tyler Perry Studios Grand Opening Gala
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    During a recent interview with Power 105.1's The Breakfast Club, Taraji confirmed her relationship with the former NFL player is over, two years after getting engaged.

    Taraji P. Henson and American Express Launch #ExpressThanks Pop Up Cafe
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    "I haven’t said it yet, but it didn’t work out," the Empire star said. "You know what I mean? I tried."

    Taraji P. Henson attends the FOX Winter TCA All Star Party
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    "I was like, 'Therapy. Let's do the therapy thing.' But if you're both not on the same page with that, then you feel like you're taking it on yourself."

    Kelvin Hayden and Taraji P. Henson attend Sean Combs 50th Birthday Bash
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    "And that's not a fair position for anybody to play in a relationship. My happiness is not his responsibility and his happiness is not mine."

    Kelvin Hayden (L) and Taraji P. Henson attend the 2019 Vanity Fair Oscar Party
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    "We have to first learn how to make ourselves happy to make each other happy. When one person is taking on the weight of the entire relationship, it's never going to work."

    Kelvin Hayden (L) and Taraji P. Henson attend Sugar Ray Leonard Foundation's 10th Annual 'Big Fighters, Big Cause' Charity Boxing Night
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    The Golden Globe winner, who was first romantically linked to Kelvin back in 2015, also stressed the importance of standing up for yourself in a relationship.

    You have to show up, and, yes, you want to be understanding. But you can't lose yourself in that understanding. You have to still stand up for yourself and be there for yourself, but it's hard to do if the other person isn't doing that part either.

    Taraji and Kelvin got engaged in 2018 and originally planned to get married on April 4, 2020.

    Taraji P. Henson and Kelvin Hayden attend a ceremony honoring Taraji P. Henson with a star on The Hollywood Walk of Fame
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    To hear more from Taraji, be sure to check out her full interview with The Breakfast Club.

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