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21 Things To Say To Someone Struggling With Depression

There's no need to panic.

Knowing what to say to people going through depression can be tough, even if you're really close to them.

1. "Tell me how you're feeling, I'll probably understand how you feel more than you think."

2. "Equally if you don't wanna talk about it, I'm happy just to be there and provide embarrassing stories of our day to make you laugh."

3. "Even if it doesn't seem that way right now, this feeling won't last forever."

4. "Take your time, no-one is rushing you to feel better."

5. "I'm still here for you and I'm not going anywhere."

6. "Take pride in your small victories, because small victories lead to bigger ones. You got out of bed? Sometimes that deserves an inner self-five."

7. "You're not crazy or weak."

8. "Some days you'll have setbacks, but just know that tomorrow is a new day with new possibilities."

9. "Can I make you a cup of tea?"

10. "I care about you."

11. "If you'd rather talk to someone professional and aren't already, I can help you sort that out."

12. "I'll come with you if you need support – even if it's just to the supermarket."

13. "You're not alone in feeling like this."

14. "You're not wrong for feeling the way you do and no one blames you for it."

15. "Depression is natural."

16. "The times when you're unwell only matter if you want them to."

17. "What activity might help restore your equilibrium?"

18. "This must be difficult."

19. "Just do the best you can because that's enough."

20. "I understand that it’s outside of your control."

21. ~Silence~

If you need information and practical advice on depression, you can call the Rethink advice and information service on 0300 5000 927 (10am–2pm), if you're in the UK.

The Depression Alliance, a charity for sufferers of depression, has a network of self-help groups.

You can call the Samaritans for confidential support if you're experiencing feelings of distress or despair on 08457 90 90 90 (24-hour helpline).

And you can call the Crisis Call Center at 1-800-273-8255 at any time of the day if you're based in the US.