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Posted on Apr 22, 2023

18 Online Dating Red Flags That Are An Immediate “No”

"A red flag for me is zero to commitment in two conversations."

by Michele Bird

BuzzFeed Contributor

Recently, we asked the BuzzFeed Community to tell us what they consider their biggest online dating red flags. Here are some of their responses:

1. "Asking/hinting at nudes. Absolutely not. Let's meet first and form a connection. It makes me think that all they want is some sort of sexual pleasure from me even when I make it very clear I'm not looking for that."

2. "When they can't even be bothered to answer any prompts to fill out their profile just a little bit, that's an automatic swipe and ignore from me."

"If you don't put any info out there aside from maybe one or two generic sentences (or even more annoying, 'ask me'), then the message you're sending to the world is that you're assuming that giving the bare minimum is enough to get what you want, and that you're most likely not willing to actually try. If you don't try on an app, you probably won't try in real life. Boy bye."

—sweetcuppincakes

3. "When they use their limited bio space to talk about how much they hate women."

4. "Snapchat, WhatsApp, Kik, etc. I can be a bit more free about my phone number as it's pre-paid and doesn't come up in searches. By all means, protect yourself! But typically, men want it primarily for dirty pics, to ghost easier, or even to hide their bullshit from a girlfriend or wife. No, thank you!"

—simplysarahish

5. "A red flag for me is zero to commitment in two conversations."

6. "Complaining about being on dating apps. I sympathize as I don't like them either, but when it's on the profile, they're usually jaded enough that they have unreasonable expectations from you. 'Nobody wants to talk' means 'I want your attention at all times and will get mad if you put your phone down.'"

—tierneyg2

7. "Only having one picture on their profile."

Nev Schulman and a woman posing in a photo in Catfish the movie

8. "When their bio doesn't match their about me. For example, I've seen some guys put, like, 5'10" on their about me, but then in their bio, it says 6'2". Like, how tall are you?!?!?"

—peynor

9. "Big lists of what they don't want in a partner with no indication of (a) what they do want or (b) what they personally are like."

10. "Only group pics" or "pictures that look like they're all from one day."

—yesbutalsonoway

11. "Any personal information (height, job, etc.) followed by 'since it apparently matters.'"

12. "When they have their Snapchat/Instagram in their bio."

—suspiciouselephants

13. "Classifying themselves as 'non-political.' We’ve got too many important issues on the line to not care about voting or the future of the country; appears ignorant."

14. "Pics that look like they were taken of two different people."

—moncul

15. "When they say they're looking for an open-minded partner, it freaks me out."

16. "Any kind of complaining, even indirectly. I get it, but it feels like they're accusing me off the bat. It also shows they aren't good at navigating the dating situation."