1. Lack of Confidence
So many of us never obtain our goals because we are not confident in ourselves. As humans we have an idea in our head of who we want to be or who we should be. We spend so much time on social media watching other people's lives and thinking "if only i had what he/she has" that we fail to look in the mirror and look around us and be thankful for who we are. We fear that we may never become the person we want to be, so therefore we don't even try to become someone we are proud of.
2. Fear of failure
Some of us will never become successful for one simple reason: we never try. We would rather take the easy road and never try than try and fail. It's like there is some subconscious thought in our mind that if we fail at something that just means we are not capable and we never will be. Makes total sense, if our first try at being successful fails then it's impossible to achieve or goals, right? Wrong. Every time you fail, you learn. Every time your idea doesn't work you learn from that and you get closer and closer to success every time you fail!
3. Caring too much about what other people think
a couple scenarios for you
1. A young man was walked out on by his father as a baby. His whole life he struggled with low self-worth and an inescapable voice in his head telling him "he would never have value, he was born into this world worthless, that's why his father walked out on him." The rest of his life he depended on other to make him feel valued and never saw how valued he really was.
2. A big-busted woman grows up in an abusive home. When she turns twelve, a family friend takes advantage of her. The boys at school all fawn over her and use her physically. She is known all throughout school as the "slut" and no one takes the time to ask her what she wants in life. She graduates high school eager to get out of her damaged home...how do you think she is going to try and pay the bills, $1,000 a night stripping or apply for scholarships to college with mediocre grades?
These are just a few examples of people whose future has been defined by others. Every single person can agree that they have either been treated differently then they felt they deserved or that they were told that they were someone other than who they wanted to be. Whether you have been told, "Oh, you should be a teacher" or "Oh, you should be a stripper" either way if whatever someone is trying to define you as if it is something different than what YOU want do not listen. NO ONE can decide who you are or who you become but YOU. You genetics are not hardwired for success or non-success they are hard-wired like every other human. You have the same capabilities of Abraham Lincoln, Elvis Presley, and Steve Jobs. You are human, you are capable of everything anyone else is capable of regardless of any circumstances your life has put you in. Don't let anyone tell you who you are, you decide who you are
4. Thinking too much
Some of us have dreams and goals in life that we are really passionate about. Sometimes, we are so passionate about it that we overthink it and try to make every detail of our lives and our future perfect. We try so hard to do this that sometimes we never actually make any progress. How many times have you questioned yourself? Or had a great idea that you talked yourself out of because it "might not work" Unfortunately, I have to say I have done that way too many times. Next time don't ask and just go for it. Life is messy. It's never going to be perfect our ideas and plans are never going to be bulletproof. Don't sit there worried so much about your next stop that you don't even put your foot on the gas. GO. You will figure it out along the way.
5. Being Lazy
Some people may read this article and see several different points that apply to them and are keeping them from living a life they are satisfied with but even still, they will read this article and go right back to facebook stalking their friend from high school who became an actor or go back to watching Netflix. WHAT IS THIS? You know exactly who you want to be, you know exactly what you're doing wrong but even still you'd rather just "start tomorrow." You see your goal but it seems "too far away" and you don't know where to begin so you just don't even start? You just copy what everyone else is doing like going to college, partying, watching Netflix, doing whatever "the norm" is at the time. Is that how successful people achieve their goals? Just by sitting around waiting for someone to come hold your hand and walk you through it? No. You want something? Go and get it, end of story.
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