Some people will go to great lengths to shoot their shot, but every so often a situation arises that begs the age-old question: How far is too far?
After liking her profile, the man messages Abby and references one of her profile photos, asking about her friend who is sitting next to her in the photo. Abby responds that her friend has a boyfriend, and advises the man not to do this in the future.
Abby's video currently has 1.2M views, 108.4 likes, and a pretty divided comment section. Some people sympathize with Abby, but others argue that there was nothing wrong with what the guy did.
Abby, a college student in the Pittsburgh area, said that she wasn't affected by the message but still found it to be rude and distasteful. She said, "Matching with someone just to ask about their friends is extremely shallow, in my opinion. None of my friends would ever want a guy's information who acted like that, either."
Abby added that the man actually messaged her back after she responded, saying, "I know, I'm sorry; I just had to know," acknowledging that the message was inappropriate. She pointed out, "He knew it was a rude thing to do; he just didn't care."
Abby said that she was inspired to make a TikTok about the messages because she found the entire exchange to be funny, though she mentioned that she wasn't expecting the rather polarizing responses in the comments. A lot of women agreed with her that the man's actions were disrespectful, while a lot of men attempted to rationalize his actions and justify his behavior. Abby said, "A lot of the hardest comments to read were the ones telling me I came off as insecure, jealous, or as a bad friend for feeling this way."
