So as the other day was my birthday, I noticed that as the day grew short I was glued to my phone to see how many people posted on my wall, what their message was and particularly; did those people I really wanted to post something actually do so?
Out of my 700 hundred or something friends, from what I can tell, only about 100 said anything and most of them were very typical run of the mill, generic messages. Examples include
"happy birthday" - this means a very simple "my facebook told me it was your birthday and now I feel like I should say happy birthday but as I don't like you that much or we're not close, you don't get any sign of affection. Because f*** you."
"happy birthday x" - this is a bit better. "My facebook told me and although we're not super close, I still kinda like you. Even though x's are meaningless, I think it shows I don't exactly hate you"
"happy birthday [insert name here]!" - of all the generic ones this is my favourite - "I might have known the day without help from my news feel but either way I like you enough to take time to sound happy for you and write your name (something that doesn't take too long to write and makes people feel like you care more)
Yes I'm one of those crazy people who think that the way in which it's written says it all. Some people texted me (mainly my closest friends and family) but on the whole facebook seemed to be buzzing with notifications. There is something to be said that these people did actually bother to say something even though it wasn't exactly out of the kindness of their hearts and I'm not exactly best friends with them all. But the people who I usually speak to in real life outside my home, like people I go to school with, seemed not at all bothered.
And now come the questions.
Do they all hate me?
Is there something about me that is unlikeable?
If so, what is it?
I also like the personal ones..
Ok let's face it. The only people who call you on your birthday is your family. And most of the time you are dreading speaking to them. Especially those who can't hear what you're saying or those who have children and speak mainly about what their little annoying kids are up to.
My own uncle actually sent me an email just saying happy birthday and at the end he wrote "PS Here are some pictures of your cousins." Sorry, it's my birthday - a day that only comes once a year - and your main concern is sending me pictures of your children. One of whom I dislike? Well that's just wonderful.
And the people who text you are either super close friends or people who aren't bothered to say it anywhere else because they want to get on with their super busy lives!
But. I digress.