I Went From "What?" To "That Makes Sense" After Learning How Long Sex Lasts For Straight People On Average
"After 15 minutes, I'm making my grocery list..."
A woman named Recie recently went viral on TikTok after asking people how long they think sex should last:
In her video — which has over 4 million views — Recie hilariously explains how she was shocked when some young girls said sex should last an hour. She says, "15–20 minutes, tops. After that, get the fuck off me, sir! Why are we doin' this? I have stuff to do! I have movies to watch, I have kids to take care of. An hour of sex?!"
BuzzFeed spoke to Recie, who said she posted the video after she and some of the younger girls at her work got into a debate about how long sex should last. "The conversation got so heated, I needed more feedback from people my age. I knew I couldn’t be the only person who thought an hour was too long! So I posted the question across my social media pages," she said.
People soon started flooding the comments to share their opinions on intercourse intervals:
A large majority agreed with Recie that about 15 minutes was sufficient.
But parents said they have shorter sex for obvious reasons:
Age definitely seemed to play a factor:
As do certain occasions:
Being with one partner for a long period of time seems to speed up the process for some:
That being said, there are also a lot of people who enjoy lengthier sex:
It's clear there can be different opinions in a relationship:
But some will tell you that one hour should be the minimum amount of time for good sex!!!
Anyway, Dr. Ali Rodriguez — an Arizona-based OBGYN — came across Recie's TikTok, and the question intrigued her as a medical professional, so she decided to do some research.
She shared her findings in another TikTok that now has nearly 13 million views:
BuzzFeed also spoke to Dr. Rodriguez, who said there’s been several studies on this topic — and most of them are surveys from heterosexual men and woman. "In a study done in 2005 (which looked at penile-vaginal intercourse), 500 couples were asked to press a stopwatch from penetration until ejaculation, and the results led to an average time of 5.4 minutes. Another study, where sex therapists were asked how long penetrative, vaginal sex should last, most agreed that the 'adequate' or 'desirable' length was 7–13 minutes — and that 10–30 minutes was too long! Finally, a study done in 2020 asked heterosexual women how long it took them to orgasm, and they found the average time was 13.4 minutes."
NOTE: It's also important to keep in mind that every person and every couple defines sex differently. For example, when thinking of how long sex lasts, some may include foreplay and some may consider it to be when both parties climax.