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    None Of Us Should Have Been Allowed To Watch "The Secret Life Of The American Teenager," And Here Are 21 Moments To Prove It

    Some secrets are better off staying that way.

    When it comes to TV, I'm a huge teen drama enthusiast. You name a show, and I've probably seen it (and have a million thoughts on it that nobody asked to hear).

    meme of Ralph from "The Simpsons" being thrown through window captioned "my kidnappers returning me after listening to me talk about 'Degrassi' for two hours"

    However, to this day, no teen drama still baffles me quite like The Secret Life of the American Teenager.

    Season 1 main cast
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    The show, which aired from 2008–13, follows 15-year-old Amy Juergens (Shailene Woodley), who gets pregnant from a one-night stand at band camp. I think it's pretty safe to say that it was, um, one-of-a-kind.

    Amy bottle feeding newborn John
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    Here are some of the most bizarre Secret Life moments that make me wonder why our parents let us watch this:

    Spoilers ahead!!

    Note: Number 8 contains references to sexual abuse.

    1. OK, so first off, can we just talk about how many times the characters would say the word "sex" every episode? It didn't matter whether it was at school, a family dinner, or the grocery store, sex was sure to come up in pretty much every conversation. You can't convince me anyone talks about it with their parents this much.

    During dinner George says neither Ashley or Amy are ready to have sex and won't be for a long time

    2. Who could forget this iconic scene? And they say romance is dead!

    Amy: "I am such a whore," Ben: "well you're my whore"

    3. The poor school counselor, Mr. Molina, seriously went through hell with these kids every day. No wonder the poor guy decided to leave after Season 1.

    Adrian to Mr. Molina: "I'm thinking about having sex with my brother"

    Imagine you're just trying to enjoy your morning coffee and a student walks in and tells you how they want to bang their stepbrother. 

    4. Also, remember when it was revealed that the school's next counselor, Dr. Bink, was fired for going to prom as a student's date? And she claimed it was just because she "loved dancing."

    meme of Dr. Bink captioned "Why am I allowed to be in charge of children again?"

    5. The amount of teen pregnancy in this town was honestly concerning. Obviously there was Amy, but then Adrian got pregnant, too, and there were several other teen pregnancies, like Kathy (and even Amy was conceived when her parents were teens). These kids seriously needed proper sex ed.

    pregnant Adrian
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    Oh, and so many people got pregnant from their first time having sex. I know it happens, but come on.

    6. Speaking of, it was pretty wild that keeping and raising the baby was treated as the only valid option for these teens. We all basically knew from the start that Amy would keep her baby (since that's, you know, the whole premise of the show), but abortion and adoption were always pretty quickly dismissed as options throughout the show.

    Grace says she "told Adrian not to have an abortion"

    I guess the only real exception was the minor character Kathy, who ended up placing her baby for adoption. It was a huge contrast to shows like Degrassi, which featured characters choosing a whole range of options.

    7. Just the way they wrote Adrian's character in general was pretty awful. She was probably one of the only tolerable ones on the show, but looking back, her entire character was riddled with stereotypes and constantly over sexualized.

    Adrian posing sexily
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    Francia Raisa's acting in the episode when Adrian and Ben's daughter was born stillborn was absolutely incredible, though — it's probably the only moment on this show that was actually very well done.

    8. Also, Ricky's traumatic childhood backstory was really sad and super, super heavy for a campy teen show. I know they addressed it with him going to therapy and the whole storyline of his dad trying to pop back into his life, but I don't think it can be overstated just how horrific this was.

    Ricky says he feels like his father "stole his childhood"

    9. On a lighter note, Ben and Amy getting "married" in the living room with fake IDs still cracks me up. I love that they never stopped to consider that the marriage wouldn't be valid.

    Ben and Amy get "married"

    10. But actually, so many high school characters really did get engaged, married, and even divorced on this show. God, can you imagine going straight from gym class to your wedding?

    Ben and Adrian wedding
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    11. We simply must talk about when Grace sincerely believed that she caused her father's death by having sex with Jack. Looking back, this is actually kind of sad, but the way she describes it as "incredible sex" to her mom just makes me lose it.

    Grace to her mom: "Dad had a horrible death because I had incredible sex"

    12. Speaking of Grace, remember the episode "Just Say Me"? She tried to get the girls to stop having sex by encouraging them to masturbate instead, which apparently NOBODY had ever heard of?!

    Grace says she recommends masturbation but wants to call it something else because it sounds too icky

    "BELIEVE ME, I RECOMMEND IT." Pardon me while I go and lose my shit for a second.

    13. Oh, and remember when she read this completely serious poem in front of all her friends? She should have won a Pulitzer for this masterpiece.

    Grace reads a poem called "I'm sorry Jesus, but I had sex"

    14. To this day, I'm still wildly confused by this show's insistence that Bologna, Italy is known for oral sex. I've googled this and cannot find ANY evidence that this is a thing.

    Ashley asks what's wrong with Bologna and George snickers

    15. Sometimes the dialogue that came out of these teenagers' mouths was just too damn much, guys.

    Grace: "I know it's unorthodox for me to be going out with a guy who's having a baby with my best friend, but if that's what I wanna do, then that's what I wanna do"

    16. Who could ever forget the extremely brave, heartbreaking story of how Griffin got beat up in elementary school for having a crush on Al Gore?

    Griffin says he got beat up 57 times in elementary school for having a crush on Al Gore

    Also, can we talk about how specific this is? Fifty-seven times? Does this mean he got beat up on 57 different occasions or someone just punched him 57 times in a row? I have so many questions, Griffin.

    17. The parents also had SO much drama going on. I know it was a small town or whatever, but it seemed like everyone's parents hooked up with each other at some point.


    18. Also, the parents were always busy jetting off somewhere. This was especially true in the case of Adrian's mom, who frequently left her teenage daughter alone overnight (and her dad, who wasn't in the picture for most of her life).

    Adrian's parents
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    No wonder Adrian and Ricky were able to have sex constantly.

    19. What was the deal with Betty's whole character? Everyone was so rude to her and felt the need to shame her every two seconds.

    Randy Holmes / Disney General Entertainment Content via Getty Images

    Get Fiona from A Cinderella Story out of your mouth!

    20. The way the whole town, including the adults, treated Grace nearly getting assaulted as one big joke was seriously messed up. They even played the video footage on the local news as a comedy bit!

    Amy's dad laughing at the video of Grace

    21. And finally, what the hell was that ending? Amy just jets off to school in New York and leaves her son behind?!

    Ricky to John: "And she lived happily ever after, and so will we"

    The show's creator did later confirm that Amy and Ricky eventually get back together and everyone moves to New York together, though. So, what exactly was the reason for that finale?

    Sigh...oh, Secret Life. How did you last for five seasons?