17 Toxic People Who Did NOT Deserve Their Significant Others, And Unfortunately Left Very Damaging Marks

Dump. Him.

Warning: This post contains topics of verbal abuse, domestic abuse, and physical abuse. Please proceed with caution.

1. This husband, who victim-blamed his wife when their neighbor made a pass at her.

Not my own: delete if already posted! Husband goes a-wall over wife giving a man a glass of water. from niceguys

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"This woman is married to my ex-husband, apparently. We lived in a 1,000-square-foot house, and the bathroom was off the living room. One day I was having a shower while he and our kids were in the living room, maybe 15 feet away. When I came out, he said, 'You've got some guy's cum on your ear; what were you doing?' He was totally serious.

"I'm like, WTF??? I looked in the mirror...it was conditioner. I had a bit of conditioner on my ear. He accused me of somehow cheating on him a few feet away in a windowless bathroom — and he meant it. He was not kidding.

"This is why he's my ex-husband — and also because (drum roll, please) he cheated on me."

—u/CoupleTechnical6795

2. This husband, who verbally abused his wife and felt "threatened" whenever she went out and had a good time on her own.

"I'm sorry" says the nice guy who verbally abused his wife so badly she left him in the middle of the night. from niceguys

"Somehow I don’t think he ACTUALLY gets it 😐."

—u/IlluminatiQueen

"He absolutely doesn't. He deleted the original post and went, 'Oh, poor me, heaven is my only hope' in the comments. Like, dude tried it, a Reddit sleuth dug up his wife's post, and the truth came out."

—u/lilmxfi

"This is disgusting — to marry someone and then spend your life emotionally abusing them and chipping away at their self-esteem on a daily basis. What a jerk."

—u/GaryBuseysGhost

3. This woman, who lied to her significant other for NINE MONTHS about him being the biological father of her baby.

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"My grandma pulled this shit with my mom. She knew that my mom was the result of her affair, but played it off as a 'birthday present' for her husband (my grandpa). Thirty-six years later, my mom found out through 23andMe that her dad wasn’t her dad, and he never knew he was lied to because he passed away 17 years ago from cancer. My mom was left devastated."

—u/birdthateats_ass

"There are noninvasive tests now that can determine paternity before the baby is born. You really have to be a shit person if you don't tell your partner."

—u/kitty9020

"I had a girlfriend do this to me a long time ago — what a horrible thing to do to someone. By the time she was pregnant with our second child, I had suspicions of her cheating, though she vehemently denied it. It really hurt to have my second child emerge, and see that child have the incredibly distinct facial features of my best friend. I definitely knew who the father was in that moment."

—u/YepThatLooksInfected

4. And this husband, who cheated on HIS wife while she was pregnant, and she got the ultimate revenge.

Trashy Husband x-post from r/tinder from trashy

"Karma will hopefully serve him the same plate."

—u/vickyvic39

"Share cheating husband's profile, see what a friend thinks."

—u/dkasbux

"This was my favorite part."

—u/rachie-bobby

5. This husband, who accused his ex-wife of horribly destructive things that were completely untrue.

It’s been a week since I kicked him out and went N.C. this morning, I transferred my anger onto paper. from JustNoSO

"Fuck him and the horse he rode in on! Wait, no, he didn’t even have a horse. Stay strong!"

—u/bigtitbritt89

"Truth. He didn’t even have a car!"

—u/kinkyhair1913 (original poster)

"Good for you! One of the most positive things I did for myself was to write a long list of things that I deserve in a partner. 'I deserve a partner who plans for a future with me. I deserve a partner who is honest about their use of drugs and alcohol. I deserve a partner who actively takes care of our pets. I deserve a partner who values my sleep, free time, and career as equal to their own.' The list is long, but after a long relationship where I was taught to give up on all these things, this list means a lot. I still go back and read it, not just as a reminder of how bad things were, but as a guide toward what I deserve in my next serious relationship.

"Get mad. Stay mad. Get free. Stay free. I believe in you! :)"

—u/ATXNerd0

6. This boyfriend, who inappropriately wanted to cheat on his girlfriend with her NIECE.

My aunt’s skeevy boyfriend went from asking what my HUSBAND and I want for Christmas to this garbage in 2 minutes. 🙃 from trashy

"Gross. I love that your 'Sure' response was so bland to begin with. You obviously didn’t even pretend to give a fuck about his 'secret.' Next he’s going to tell you to chill out and that he’s just trying to pay you a compliment, as if that’s supposed to be a reward of some kind."

—u/PaintByLetters

"He’s said things along the lines of 'secret' before regarding my aunt — I thought this time it was going to be about a fucking Christmas present for her or something. I wouldn’t have even said anything if I knew he was going to be like that."

—u/kate_mili (original poster)

7. This ex-girlfriend, who wanted to hook up with her ex-boyfriend while she was married to a new man.

Ex girlfriend texts me at around 11:30 for a hookup. Shes married and her army husband is deployed. from trashy

"'Aren’t you married or something?' Luv it — send this to her husband, original poster. It's only right."

—u/[deleted user]

"Ex-Army here — I grew up in a Navy town where the local bars would be packed with Navy wives before the fleet even cleared the harbor entrance on the way out for a six-month cruise. Send it to her husband (I don't tolerate husbands screwing around either)."

—u/TDC4U

8. This husband, who took back an apology, and it had a very damaging effect on his wife's heart rate.

A visual representation of my rage when SO aggressively took back his very first heartfelt apology because he did "nothing wrong" and was "forced" to say sorry. from JustNoSO

"For three years, my significant other has broken promises many times, he has lied to my face about it, and every time he denies he was wrong and minimizes the issue. Then he attacks me (I am apparently 'controlling,' 'constantly berating him,' 'being selfish,' 'on a high horse,' etc.) — he didn't do anything wrong! This is my fault, my problem! He is the victim of my inflexibility! 

"We've been to counseling specifically because he breaks agreements, and we've talked A LOT about how inappropriately he responds when confronted with a wrongdoing. We've been working on alternative ways for him to react.

"This weekend was his second chance to actually stick to an agreement and apply everything we worked on (he blew the first chance, shockingly). But guess who didn't stick to the agreement?! I chewed him out, and that's when his 'forced apology' came — not long after he stormed into the bedroom, took it back, and then deVOURED me."

—u/throwaymyprobs (original poster)

"One of the very basic things you need to do in order to be a decent person is admit your faults and apologize sincerely when you mess up. Not being able to see or apologize are huge red flags — whether it's a personality disorder, psychopathy, or maybe this person is just an asshole, I really can't say. But in my mind, this is the bare-minimum requirement for someone to be a 'good person.' Seriously — this is the lowest bar, and he's not hitting it."

—u/-purple-is-a-fruit-

9. This husband, who cheated on his wife with her MAID OF HONOR.

When your maid of honor sleeps with your husband. from trashy

"The bride has been posting on Facebook about her divorce. No one knew why she got a divorce; then she uploaded this."

—u/Matthewangel96 (original poster)

"Maid of dishonor."

—u/pants_shmants

"Yeah, let's all blame the maid of honor while ignoring the fact that the newly wedded husband was a part of it — I don't understand why people get angry at the third party and never the cheater in the relationship!"

—u/established82

10. This ex-wife, who was surprisingly upset that she'd lose alimony if she married a different man.

Three years ago, my ex-wife was concerned about losing her alimony if she remarried. At the time said I’d pay it for at least another year. That was forgotten until this morning: from trashy

"With my divorce, I tried to keep lawyers out of the picture on alimony, and the offer was much more than what the court would give. She thought I was ripping her off (even after I told her to show my offer to others, even a lawyer). She told me to lawyer up and get ready, so I did. She insisted that I become destitute and asked for three-quarters of my GROSS PAY for LIFE. The state awarded what they awarded, and she wanted my original offer, but it was 'expired.'

"Divorce can be cruel and ugly, but never once did she express sadness over losing me. She was angry, concerned, and panicked over MONEY — so good for you."

—u/Insomniakk72

"My first divorce taught me a lot of lessons, the first one being to ALWAYS get a prenup, and not just for paying or receiving alimony. You just don’t want to be at the mercy of state law if/when a marriage ends. When I got remarried, I made it very clear that a detailed prenup was required. It’s called 'Trust but verify!' We are both very satisfied with our choice, especially now that we see some of our peers having very ugly divorces."

—u/MistyValentine

"Glad that I'm still friends with my ex-wife and that she just wanted to keep one of the dogs and not want the nonexistent money I had. I'm sorry for anyone going through a terrible divorce."

—u/Kasiaus

11. This husband, who embraced the disgusting stereotype of cheating on his significant other with their maid.

Husband cheating on wife with maid. Posted on a community yard sale site. from trashy

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12. This dude, who wrote a problematic list of reasons he'd take his girlfriend back.

My girlfriend's ex's list from circa 2009 for getting back together. from ChoosingBeggars

Some ultimatums include "If we date, [you] become more sexual" and "Don't talk to anyone at your job unless it's about work, and only ask the girls."

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"Yikes...why didn't he just skip all that and chain her up in the basement? That's clearly where this was headed."

—u/DrizzledDrizzt

"No, because she has to work her ass off while living a 'hell on Earth' life. There is no way someone like this man will keep a girlfriend."

—u/FuckingIDuser

"What do you mean you talked to your sister without consulting me first? NEXT!"

—u/thisbitchneedsreddit

13. This woman, who crossed a huge boundary and asked her ex-boyfriend to pick up her current boyfriend from jail.

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"Can't imagine why you let that one get away..."

—u/XyranDarkstar

"Why would she assume you would do that? I can’t imagine someone asking without at least being on decent terms."

—u/ChestyLaRue83

"I feel like if one of my exes got in contact with me asking to pick up their current boyfriend from jail, I would quickly pick up the phone and call them so they could hear me laugh at such a stupid request."

—u/PixelSpy

14. This husband, who strangely posted his wedding photo to his Tinder profile and wrote an extremely demeaning comment about his wife.

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"Like, the revelation that your new brother-in-law has zero game and resorts to either treating women like trash or relying on the cuteness of a dog really says a lot about his personality, not to mention going on a dating app to boast about these things."

—u/Stillwindows95

15. This ex-girlfriend, who asked her ex-boyfriend if she could get a discount on his custom-made cutting boards because...they used to date.

My ex girlfriend. Self explanatory to get a cheaper cutting board. from ChoosingBeggars

"'Oh, right, you're my ex. For you, love, that comes to $300. I'll throw in free shipping.'"

—u/signed_under_duress

"Bull shy, I tell you!"

—u/SaucyRobot80085

16. This ex-wife, who cheated, refused to claim her things, and didn't "pay the court-ordered payments."

Ex-wife left the house like this after she was caught cheating. Lied to family and cops/judge. I am still going to court because she will not pay the court ordered payments. It will have been a year (in 2 das) since the legal separation and she has done nothing but spit in the face of the court. from trashy

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"Been there, done that. You’re expecting rationality and for a glimmer of this to make sense, and it probably never will. Clear the house and dump the stuff in the trash — she had her chance. Sell the house. Give her what she’s owed (there’s no point arguing and trying to teach her a lesson), and move on with your life as quickly as you possibly can so you can cut her out for good.

"It does get better, my friend. I promise."

—u/atomicheart99

"It will never make sense — maybe 20 years down the line, she'll reach out to you via Facebook and say she made a mistake. At that point, hopefully you have a hard time remembering who she is. Good luck. Document shit. Get her out of your life."

—u/TooMuchAZSunshine

17. And this boyfriend, who wrote a very cruel, derogatory term on his girlfriend's apartment door.

What my neighbors (ex?) boyfriend did to her apartment door. from trashy

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