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Stop Giving Your Partner The Silent Treatment

New research shows it’s pointless. So why do people still do it?

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An analysis of 74 studies found that couples that engage in a particular pattern of avoidance can ruin their relationship.

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A demand/withdraw pattern happens when one person approaches the other wanting attention — or with a criticism — and is met with silence.

You might get pissed and feel like they're being emotionally unavailable. On the other side, you might feel like you're being nagged.

But if it’s so common, why is it necessarily a bad thing?


And it’s a huge red flag of distress, mentally and physiologically.

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Not only are you less happy in your relationship, you can have less intimacy and probably have worse communication — and that can manifest itself as anxiety and other effects, like erectile dysfunction.