As a nosy person, I am OBSESSED with this Reddit page called "Am I the Asshole?" It's extremely entertaining.
In case you aren't familiar with the subreddit, it's basically where people spill their juiciest moral conflicts. Others can then vote on who the "asshole" in the situation is. This week, a woman wants to know if she's in the wrong for not letting her mother-in-law sleep in her own bed, and I MUST know what you all think.
Here's the situation as told by the woman, u/Xoxo76757:
"My husband (m34) and I (f26) got married 9 months ago. We live in a different town from his parents, and his mom visited us unexpectedly on Friday. Now, to give some context about my MIL, she is okay-ish but has no respect for her son's privacy and, by extension, mine," she said.
"When it was time to go to bed, MIL requested that we let her sleep in the bedroom, on the master bed, not just that but lock the door as well because she explained she can't feel comfortable enough to sleep without locking the door. I found this bizarre, but I politely declined and suggested other options like the guest room, couch, and air mattress, but no, she turned around and presented these options to me. My husband agreed, but I said no. This initiated an argument between her and I."
"During the argument, I pointed out how I didn't want to be kept out of my room and away from my stuff, but she lashed out at my husband, saying, 'Don't you just stand there! Say something!' My husband told me to let her since it's just one night, but I told her those were all the options I had for her, and if she didn't like them, then I could book her in a hotel. She took it as in I was kicking her out and started crying, which made my husband upset," she continued.
"She left at 12 a.m., and my husband blew up saying I disrespected his mom who was a GUEST at our house and treated her poorly. He then reminded me it's our bedroom, not just mine, and I acted horribly to her, causing her to go stay at a hotel in the middle of the night."
She went on to say, "He went to book a room in the same hotel as her and turned his phone off. The next day, she went home and told the family who berated me, calling my behavior towards MIL abhorrent and loathsome. Now, my husband is complaining about how I keep trying to ruin his relationship with his family and push them away. But I want to know if I was really the asshole?"
It seemed like everyone was in agreement that the woman was not the asshole. One user, who goes by u/byuell, advised the woman to get out of her marriage ASAP.
"Girl I would get a divorce asap. These kind of relationships never last for a long time. He is not able to see the disrespect his mother is giving BOTH of you guys. Run," they said.
Another user, who goes by u/Dont-trust-it, argued that since the mother-in-law was a guest, it's only right that she stay in the guest room.
"She clearly had ulterior motives here. There is every chance she planned to snoop," they added.
Others criticized the woman's husband for failing to recognize his mother's misjudgement. Someone who goes by u/Accomplished-Shop514 said:
"It’s creepy that she wants to sleep in the room you and your husband (her son) share. Especially with that insane amount of pushback she was giving and looking at her son to 'step in' only makes this worse than it needs to be. Husband is acting like a momma's boy and needs to see his mom is totally in the wrong."
Similar sentiments were shared:
"The fact that he went to the hotel after, clearly he hasn't been weened at 34 years of age. What an immature decision for both the MIL and husband. NTA. You're only 9 months in and he's doing the red flag dance," u/BrownSugarBare chimed in.