19 TV And Movie Characters Who Were Terrible Friends When You Think About It

They need to get it together!

We recently asked members of the BuzzFeed Community to tell us which TV and movie characters they realised, upon reflection, actually aren't good friends. Here are some of their responses!

1. Carrie Bradshaw from Sex and the City

HBO

"She pleaded with Samantha to come to her book release party even though Samantha's face was peeling off. She left Miranda lying on her bathroom floor and sent her boyfriend over to help instead. And then she got all huffy when Charlotte didn't want to loan her money to pay off her debts! Talk about self-centred!"

—caitlinm18

2. Lilly Moscovitz from The Princess Diaries

Walt Disney Pictures

"At least in the first movie. Lilly was the worst friend to Mia. Mia's life just got turned upside down and she has to choose if she should take on the responsibility of being a princess of an entire country, and she is trusting enough to tell Lilly. Sure, Lilly doesn't tell anyone else, but she just wants to use her 'best friend''s royalty to her own advantage."

—nebrickner

3. Chad Danforth from High School Musical

Disney Channel

"He is such a bad friend to Troy. He freaks out when Troy tells him he wants to do the school musical, and sabotages Troy's relationship. In the second movie, he gets mad at Troy for trying to get a scholarship to help him go to college and do what he loves. He's the worst friend!"

—ssolinsky

4. Simon's group of friends in Love, Simon

Fox 2000 Pictures

"Like sure, he lied to you, but that’s only cause he was being blackmailed about his sexuality!! Then they sat and did nothing while he was gay-bashed in the lunch room! Then they make Simon apologise to them at the end. He. Was. Being. Blackmailed."

—kyleeb458ddc16e

5. Serena van der Woodsen from Gossip Girl

The CW

"She was a crappy friend to Blair, slept with two of Blair's boyfriends, tried sabotaging Blair with Yale TWICE, and constantly pretended that she was an angel when, in actuality, all of her and Blair's fights were her fault. She then proceeded to leave when Blair needed her because she felt she'd 'outgrown' Blair. Blair Waldorf could be a shitty person sometimes, but at least she owned it, instead of being all holier-than-thou like Serena."

—vaishnavireddy1809

6. Xander Harris from Buffy the Vampire Slayer

The WB

"I love BTVS so much but every time I re-watch it, I notice more and more awful things about Xander. Like, he knows Willow is in love with him for season one and some of season two, but he still talks to her constantly about his crush on Buffy and even uses Willow to practice his speech to ask Buffy out. He says he has no romantic interest in Willow but acts like a turd when she and Oz start dating. He is judgemental to Buffy and his jealousy over Angel is gross and creepy. He is hypocritical and lacks empathy. I could go on and on."

– Samantha Elizabeth via Facebook

7. Lorelai Gilmore from Gilmore Girls

The CW

"Lorelai Gilmore was pretty bad. Whenever she had a problem everyone came running, but when for example Sookie had a big problem, Lorelai just made jokes about it and went back to dealing with her own problems."

—mia-karom

8. Lily Aldrin from How I Met Your Mother

CBS

"As much as I love How I Met Your Mother, I think Lily was the worst sometimes. First off, she just left Marshall and disappeared to San Francisco for a while without even keeping in touch with her 'best' friends Ted, Barney, and Robin in the process. Second, when Ted gave her a job at the architect firm he worked at she almost got him fired as she stole his mean boss' baseball. And lastly we find out that Lily has been purposely breaking up Ted and his girlfriends because she didn’t like them and they didn’t pass the 'front porch test.' I love Lily but sometimes she was just too carefree and undermining."

—chrisn98

9. Damien Leigh and Janice Ian from Mean Girls

Paramount Pictures

"I understood where they were coming from, but to me it felt like they were using Cady for their own schemes to get revenge on the Plastics. Plus when they got pissed because their plan worked a little too well, and completely forgot that Cady has grown up in an entirely different country with a different social life. It just seemed unfair."

—fnchdarcy

10. Meredith Grey from Grey's Anatomy

ABC

"I swear she’s the worst. Every time something bad happens, she expects all her friends to drop everything and focus only on her. When her friends need help she usually encourages their bad mood with negative comments. She was probably the worst girlfriend to Derek too. She always wanted him to adjust to her needs and do what she wanted. And instead of saying what she wants, she beats around the bush or is passive-aggressive, and when they don't catch on she throws a hissy fit."

—melonette000

11. Ross Gellar from Friends

NBC

"This may be an obvious one but Ross from Friends was such a terrible person who only really cared for himself and looked down on so many of his friends because he had a better job than them. In fact, he even laughed at Rachel when she told him about her being a fashion designer, completely disregarding it as a profession.

"He even stopped her from pursuing it at the end just so he could be with her, and when they did stop dating for a few seasons (meaning a few years) he still got jealous whenever she talked to someone else. He also constantly poked fun at Joey throughout the show, which is just kinda horrible. And that whole ‘unagi’ thing he did, totally uncalled for."

—zarakhan2004

12. Rocket Raccoon from Guardians of the Galaxy

Marvel Studios / Disney

"Rocket Raccoon, who basically treats Groot like a renewable resource of hired muscle and only realises his value as a friend after he dies."

– Luis Reyna via Facebook

13. Elena Gilbert from The Vampire Diaries

The CW

"Elena from The Vampire Diaries was the worst friend to Bonnie and Caroline. She was so self obsessed and orientated around Damon. For instance when they broke up for the millionth time, Bonnie and Caroline made her breakfast in bed and kicked up a fuss, but Elena didn’t give a shit when Caroline and Tyler broke up and they dated for AGES."

—emilybeam

14. Harry Potter and Ron Weasley from the Harry Potter movies

Warner Brothers

"Harry and Ron were terrible friends to Hermione, though Harry was a somewhat better friend to Hermione than Ron was. Harry and Ron would have not made it through most of the series if not for Herminoe's intellect, which Ron made fun of in the first film."

—lightheart16

15. Archie Andrews from Riverdale

The CW

"He hasn't been so bad season two but in season one he was the most selfish friend. While everyone else was worried about solving a murder, his best friend was homeless, and everyone dealt with WAY bigger problems, all Archie ever focused on was his singing career. He continuously wasn't there when Jughead or Betty needed him, and when his girlfriend's dad (a girl he had only known for a couple of months) tried to destroy the lives of his best friend (who he'd known for YEARS) and his father's, he sat around playing Veronica's puppy dog. He's since redeemed himself a little, but still. He was super shitty (and sometimes even a way worse boyfriend – just ask Valerie!)"

—emilyd41b36b9de

16. Izzie Stevens from Grey's Anatomy

ABC

"I love Grey’s Anatomy but since I’ve re-watched I realised they are all pretty crappy friends. Especially Izzie! In my opinion, Izzie started out sweet and likeable but then in season four she just became a terrible friend! It always left a bad taste in my mouth and in my eyes she never redeemed herself. But don’t even get me started on Derek Shepherd..."

—bluewaters007

17. The friend group from On My Block (except Jamal)

Netflix

"Everyone other than Jamal in the friendship group in On My Block. Not only do they always blame him for all the shit that happens during the entire first season, they never give him any emotional support. Even though he ***SPOILERS*** did actually solve the RollerWorld conspiracy!!"

—thesuncameout

18. Titus Andromedon from The Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt

Netflix

"Unpopular opinion: Titus from The Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt. She supports both of them and he can't even take his damn Barbies out of the shower. Everything has to revolve around him, even his roommates' trauma, his boyfriend coming out and his landlady's boyfriend's terminal illness."

– Cherryll Batty via Facebook

19. Phoebe Buffay from Friends

NBC

"She’s constantly stirring up drama under the guise of ditziness. She reveals that Monica had lunch with Richard to Chandler, and that Monica wanted to sleep with Joey first, causing major fights between them. She forces Monica and Rachel to reveal what they don’t like about each other, again causing a big fight. She tells Chandler that his employees don’t like him, Rachel that she’s a pushover and Monica that she’s high maintenance. She tells Ross he’s a bad and unsupportive friend after he objects to her stealing a little girls’ cat.

"She shames a random stranger for watching porn, tries to force Monica to give up her dreams for a mediocre catering business, and insults Monica’s restaurant after she is asked politely to stop singing inappropriate songs in front of it. Her actions regarding finding Rachel’s pregnancy test are truly awful – if you find a pregnancy test in someone else’s garbage maybe mind your own business!"

—lindsayb42bb479a4

Note: submissions have been edited for length and/or clarity.

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