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    24 Things That Are Too Damn Real For People Raised By Asian Parents

    Tiger Balm fixes everything.

    You may have heard of our popular series on the BuzzFeed Australia YouTube channel called "Never Have I Ever." In a special all-star edition, we invited Remy Hii, Natalie Tran, Benjamin Law, Jennifer Wong, and Max Brown to share their stories and experiences about what growing up Asian in Australia was really like.

    Remy Hii and Max Brown sitting down at a table and holding up signs that say "I have"

    From herbal remedies (Tiger Balm fixes everything — haven't you heard?) to wearing shoes in the house, here are some of the cultural experiences we touched on while playing "Never Have I Ever: Asian Australian Edition."

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    1. Calling someone auntie or uncle even though you're not related to them.

    A close up of Marc Fennell with his hand stretched out; there is text saying "Auntie? Uncle?"

    2. Leaving your shoes at the door or storing them on a shoe stand at the front of the house.

    Various pairs of shoes placed on a welcome mat by the door

    3. But then feeling conflicted when you visit a friend's house and are told to wear your shoes inside their home — even though it feels wrong.

    4. Growing up and being told that home remedies work better than Western medicine.

    5. Having random people you've just met ask you, "No, where are you really from?"

    6. Eating rice for breakfast, lunch, and dinner.

    7. Receiving brutally honest comments about your appearance from your parents and extended family.

    Benjamin Law holding up a sign that says "I have"; there is text saying "You've gained weight, you've lost weight, your skin's terrible, what's happening with your hair?"

    8. Not being allowed to go to bed with wet hair or leave the fan on while you're sleeping.

    9. Attending language school on the weekends.

    10. Feeling the pressure to become a doctor, lawyer, engineer, or accountant in order to make your family proud.

    A meme showing a guy (me) looking at woman (musician, artist, actor, arts, gamer, sports) while his girlfriend (what my parents want: doctor, lawyer, engineer) has a shocked expression on her face

    11. And ultimately, carving out your own career path — even if your parents don't quite understand what you're doing.

    12. Owning more than one rice cooker.

    An empty rice cooker

    13. Being forced to go to tutoring.

    14. Or worse, having your parents tutor you themselves.

    15. Performing the ultimate Asian ASMR when you would use a plastic cup to scoop up rice from the rice bucket and tip it into the rice cooker.

    16. Putting up with racist jokes — because if you don't laugh along, then you supposedly don't have a sense of humour or are too sensitive.

    17. Eating certain foods because — according to your parents — they would make you smarter or improve your health in some way.

    A hand holding a large glass jar filled with almonds; there is text saying "tfw your mum buys a whole ass jar of almonds to make you smarter"

    18. Having various household items covered in plastic.

    A handing holding a TV remote covered with plastic

    19. Placing all your pots and pans in the dishwasher or oven for extra storage — and never using said dishwasher or oven for their intended purpose.

    #GrowingUpAsian Your family uses the dishwasher as storage

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    Even more annoying is what my family does — storing our pots and pans in the oven and having to take them out each and every single time we use it.

    20. Being threatened with an assortment of household items whenever you were acting up.

    A slipper, hairbrush, wooden spoon and bamboo broom

    21. Begging your parents to buy your favourite snacks while grocery shopping.

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    Haw flakes, Pocky, and White Rabbit Candy were just some of the favourites you munched on.

    22. Having a shit tonne of complimentary toiletries from hotels that your mum had collected over the years.

    23. Wishing you had less Asian features or were white, so that you could fit in better with the kids at school.

    Natalie Tran and Marc Fennell talking about how kids at school would say that their skin was dirty and how they wished they were white

    24. And then growing up and going through a process of accepting who you are and being proud of your cultural identity.

    Don't forget to watch "Never Have I Ever: Asian Australian Edition!" And let us know which cultural experiences you relate to the most in the comments.

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