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First-Time Parents, What Were The Biggest Surprises About Having A Baby?

If you're a first-time parent, we want to hear from you.

Hey, I'm Hannah, and I'm a relatively new mom to a seven-month-old daughter. I recently wrote all about my experience becoming a parent and the things that shocked me most about the newborn phase. Turns out other parents had lots of comments and thoughts to share. So, I wanted to flip the mic and hear all about your experiences, too.

A newborn taking a contact nap

So, tell me: What are the things that surprised you most about having a baby or becoming a first-time parent?

Maybe you were unprepared for the way your relationship with your spouse changed during the first few months of parenthood.

A view of a family's feed in bed

Or perhaps you were surprised by the fact that you didn't feel an instant connection to your newborn. Rather, it took a few weeks for that attachment to form.

A woman holding a tiny baby's hand

Maybe you decided to formula feed and were shocked at the way other people made you feel guilty about your decision.

Scooping formula into a bottle

Or perhaps after worrying about physically healing post-baby, you were pleasantly surprised to feel stronger than ever as a new mother.

A woman holding a baby by the water

Whatever surprised you as a new parent, I would love to hear about it. Tell us in the comments and your responses could be featured in a BuzzFeed Community post. If you'd like to remain anonymous, please feel free to share your thoughts in this Google Form.