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10 Truths That People Who've Disappeared From Your Life Would Like To Tell You

Being bad at keeping in touch doesn't mean that we've forgotten you.

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1. Just because you go a long time without seeing someone, it doesn't mean you don't like them.

Seriously, life just seems to whiz by you sometimes. One second, you're hanging out with other friends, or cozying up at home with a good book, and the next thing you know it's been months since you've seen one of your closest friends from whom you were once inseparable. That's not to say that you don't like these people as much. It's just the way life works out sometimes.
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Seriously, life just seems to whiz by you sometimes. One second, you're hanging out with other friends, or cozying up at home with a good book, and the next thing you know it's been months since you've seen one of your closest friends from whom you were once inseparable. That's not to say that you don't like these people as much. It's just the way life works out sometimes.

2. Sometimes, so much time goes by without talking to the person that it feels awkward to even initiate a conversation.

You're always worrying that it'll seem weird to reach out randomly after not speaking for a while, so you end up disappearing even more.
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You're always worrying that it'll seem weird to reach out randomly after not speaking for a while, so you end up disappearing even more.

3. Oftentimes, if you see something that reminds you of the person, you want to reach out to tell them and to say that you miss them, but then you get caught up in other stuff and forget to do so later on.

"Wow, the guy in this gif looks just like my best friend from elementary school!" If you don't post it to the person's Facebook page right away, there goes the memory.
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"Wow, the guy in this gif looks just like my best friend from elementary school!" If you don't post it to the person's Facebook page right away, there goes the memory.

4. Or you think it's not important enough to reach out about.

"It's just a silly gif. They probably won't even see the resemblance anyway," you tell yourself, and let it go.
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"It's just a silly gif. They probably won't even see the resemblance anyway," you tell yourself, and let it go.

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5. And sometimes you worry that sending them a "hey, how are you?" or "I miss you <3" might seem too routine.

You&#x27;ve already worked out in your head exactly how that conversation will go: &quot;Fine, how about you?&quot; &quot;Good!&quot; and that&#x27;ll be that.
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You've already worked out in your head exactly how that conversation will go: "Fine, how about you?" "Good!" and that'll be that.

6. But people have different ways of showing that they care about each other.

Some people prefer to talk every day, others like to hug, and some hold on to mementos to keep fond memories close to their hearts. They all care, but each in their own unique way.
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Some people prefer to talk every day, others like to hug, and some hold on to mementos to keep fond memories close to their hearts. They all care, but each in their own unique way.

7. Even if you don't talk that often, affection doesn't fade from one day to the next.

Fondness doesn&#x27;t necessarily depend upon proximity.
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Fondness doesn't necessarily depend upon proximity.

8. Some people just aren't very good at keeping in touch.

Sorry?
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Sorry?

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9. Or maybe they're just too quiet or reserved.

Everyone has their own personalities and everybody navigates friendships differently!
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Everyone has their own personalities and everybody navigates friendships differently!

10. But hey, sending a text to that friend who seems to have disappeared from your life, calling them out for having been so absent lately, can actually be really good for your friendship!

Don&#x27;t beat around the bush. Just be sincere. &quot;The disappeared&quot; have hearts, too. In most cases, they were just off in their own world. They still miss you and would love to see you!
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Don't beat around the bush. Just be sincere. "The disappeared" have hearts, too. In most cases, they were just off in their own world. They still miss you and would love to see you!

This post was translated from Portuguese.