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"Energy Speaks Loudly": Men Are Sharing Qualities Of Women That Instantly Make Them Attractive, And These Are More Wholesome Than I Expected

"I melted when she did this to protect me from the cold."

There's something so refreshing about people discussing specific qualities they love in a person — and none of them have to do with physical looks. So, of course I was intrigued when I stumbled upon this Reddit thread where u/nlg93 asked, "People attracted to women: What is something not inherently sexual that makes you think a woman is sexy?"

a scene from "clueless" where cher is swooning in class

Here are some honest responses from the thread that I personally really liked.

1. "Caring. I melted when she zipped my jacket up to protect me from the cold."

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2. "If they can roast the hell out of you and not get mad when you roast them back."


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3. "Going out of their way to talk to me. Makes me feel wanted."


4. "When her interests line up with mine."


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5. "When they flick their hair aside and they smell like heaven."


6. "Talent is sexy AF. Singing, painting, writing — whatever. Do it well and do it with style, and you’ll have (and keep) my attention."


7. "I do love cuddles. My love language is touch, and I learned early in marriage that didn't always have to mean sexual contact. I get ridiculously happy when my wife turns over in her sleep and just finds me for cuddles. IDK, something about the fact that even unconsciously she seeks me out is one of the best feelings in the world."

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8. "A person who is honest about my mistakes or what exactly she likes instead of not telling me what the fuck I am doing wrong or get mad if I don't choose the right restaurant when I ask for your preference."


9. "If they’re received positively by other women. Energy speaks loudly."


10. "When they’re passionate about their interests, I especially love when they want to talk about it all the time, teach you, show you. I’ve met so many women who just seem to have no interests, no hobbies, no goals — and I can never form a connection with them. I’m very passionate about the things I like, and I’m attracted to women who are the same."

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11. "Her confidence in her own skin makes her glow with radiant beauty that is contagious."


12. "When she says, 'I'm proud of you always.'"


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13. "Her overall demeanor. Her personality, worldly view, how she carries herself, can she contribute to a conversation...things like this. I don't care how she looks on the outside. If she has good things inside, I'll be attracted to her."


Is there anything you want to add to this list? If so, share it with me in the comments below!