Reddit user u/h8raide88 asked the question, "You go on a first date with someone. What habit or characteristic is a deal breaker?" and there is an overwhelming amount of responses to things that turn people off right out of the gate when they meet someone on a first date.
Here are some of the best responses:
1. "I went on a date with a girl; this date was a disaster. She got food in her hair and all over the place, she wouldn’t get off her phone, and she stabbed herself in the cheek with her fork because she wasn’t paying attention. I’ve never seen her since."
2. "Repeatedly interrupting me when I’m talking, especially when I’m answering a question they asked. It tells me they’re not actually engaged in what I’m saying."
3. "Self-deprecating to the point where everything needs to be somehow connected in a negative way back to yourself. Like literally everything. While chatting it's even more obvious, sad faces all the time, 'I'm dumb,' 'I don't deserve what I've achieved,' etc."
4. "If they are hard to talk to. It might not make them a bad person, but obviously there is no chemistry if all I get are one-word answers where they also don't reciprocate questions."
5. "Being a know-it-all. I had lunch with someone who called the table salt 'sodium chloride' and used the bread as a way to tell me everything he knew about complex carbohydrates (some of which wasn’t even correct) and their connections to evolutionary theory. Just felt like he was compensating for something."
6. "Getting so drunk on the first date that you can't figure out Uber, and I have to drive you home. No, you can't stay on my couch; I don't know you."
7. "Too much discussion about money."
8. "Someone who doesn’t ask about me. It shows that they don’t actually care."
9. "On their phone the whole time. If you can't disconnect for an hour or so to engage with me, then it's not going to work."
10. "Constantly talking about their exes."
11. "They talk over me and spend the conversation giving me unsolicited advice about how to live my life."
12. "The amount of guys who think negging is a good flirting technique is ridiculous. Contrary to what you read on WikiHow, insulting a girl doesn't make her want to impress you, it just makes her realize you're a dick."
13. "Their phone doesn't stop making noises, even when they're not glued to it. Nobody needs to hear that "ping!" every time you get a Facebook message or an Instagram like."
14. "The type of guy who needs to flirt with the waitress or just be heavy."
15. "Lying about their appearance. You see their pictures, they look nice, and then they are different in person. What's the point?"
16. "If you smack your lips or chew with your mouth open, it's game over. Not sure I could even make it to the end of dinner."
"Heavy breathing, open mouth chewer or close minded." —u/MailroomMorty
17. "Smoking is my number-one dealbreaker. I hate kissing a smoker, and it immediately kills the mood for me."
18. "Eating with their hands. I knew a girl once who would eat foods like spaghetti and fish with her hands, and if I were to go on a date with someone similar, I would end it as soon as possible."
19. "Being way too touchy. One time I went on a movie date. Mans took out his thing out of nowhere. I was like wooooo, there’s people, and this is our first date."
20. "During at least some point during a first date, I think hobbies or passions are brought up. I really don't care what hobbies you have. You could be into the dumbest shit ever. As long as you are into something. Anything."
21. "Children. I wish all the best to all the single parents in the world, but I am not signing up to be a stepparent."
22. "Went on a Tinder date where she tried to sell me on her pyramid scheme. Didn’t know that was a dealbreaker until it happened."
23. "Referring to going to the restroom as 'going make tinkles.' I wanted to leave on the spot."
24. "When they try to constantly turn the conversation back to sex."
25. "Snobs about interests. I understand you might love 1950s jazz deep cuts, but that doesn’t make me an idiot because I like Jennifer Lopez."
26. "Flat earther believer, anti-vaxxer, rude to staff, tries too hard to look quirky, or talks like an anime character. Also, waterboarding conversationalist. Like you have to torture them to hold a conversation."
27. "Complimenting me by trashing my entire gender. 'You really know your shit; I've never met a female who knew so much about politics.' Yeah Bud, you sure have; you just didn't listen."
28. "Mouth-breathers...or when they constantly have that foaming piece of saliva at the corners of their mouths."
29. "Constant forced sexual advances — I can’t stand a date constantly giving me thirsty looks or [who] makes sexual gestures."
30. "Sloppy table manners."
31. "Intelligence. If they come off as dumb as a box of rocks, I'm out."
32. "Venting. Like, it’s good to vent, but it’s our first date, so can we talk about other aspects of your life that are maybe more uplifting topics? The worst is when they vent about how they’re constantly rejected and don’t realize it’s because it’s all they talk about and their self-esteem is null. It’s just not an appropriate vibe for an introduction to themselves."
33. "When they call pizza 'za.'"
