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    10 Things Women In Their Twenties Need To Stop Worrying About

    Seriously, girl. You've got this.

    1. Not having a clue what you’re doing with your life.

    2. Your body.

    3. Being seen as a “bitch”.

    One of the most endlessly frustrating things in life is how differently men and women are perceived.

    When men are assertive, ambitious, and powerful they are celebrated and revered. When a woman is any of those things, she is instantly labelled a bitch. It's lazy, it's sexist, and it's not true.

    And it's not our fault. We're taught from school age that girls should be quiet and pretty and polite, while the boys are the burly, vocal ones. Part of the reason we're often reluctant to speak up is because we aren't used to having the opportunity to do so.

    We need to stop worrying that voicing our opinions will result in negative perceptions of us. If we don't speak up – whether it's standing up for ourselves at work or telling someone who's just catcalled you to actually fuck off – we will forever be trapped in a cycle of inequality and unhappiness.

    So go forth, speak your mind, be assertive, and do not give a single fuck about what anyone has to say about it.

    4. What other people are doing on social media.

    5. Contraception

    6. Being in the perfect relationship.

    Here's the thing: Relationships, like just about everything else in life, are not perfect. They're not easy and they're not straightforward.

    When I was with an ex, people used to comment on how he clearly "adored" me, how cute we were together, and how perfect we seemed. They were shocked when we broke up. But what they didn't know was that I'd accidentally come across a Gchat conversation when I was borrowing his laptop one day, in which he told his best friend he wasn't in love with me. And I lived with that for another year and a half before we broke up. For the exact reason he laid out in that Gchat.

    So there's no use comparing yourself to any other couple. There's also no point worrying about things that haven't even happened yet, and freaking out about the ~future~ rather than enjoying what you have with that person, right now.

    If you're single, worrying about your friends coupling up and leaving you behind is a sure-fire way to end up settling for something less than what you deserve. It's far better to embrace the good things about being single, and get to know yourself and what you want, until you meet someone who IS worth your time.

    Every relationship has problems and struggles going on behind closed doors. Aiming for someone or something perfect is futile. I remember a friend telling me once that her husband wasn't, on paper, her dream man. In fact, he was the opposite in many ways. But their relationship works. Day to day, she told me, they made each other happy. And isn't that what's important?

    7. Getting "closure".

    8. Wondering whether they really are into you.

    Dating and relationships are never straightforward, but what should be clear is whether or not somebody likes you. That shouldn't be up for debate.

    Fundamentally, people either want to spend time with you or they don't. No one worth being with keeps you hanging on, refuses to find time to see you, or makes you feel anxious.

    One couple's route into a relationship is never the same as another's, but it should always be the case that both parties feel respected. You're too good for time-wasters.

    9. Ditching bad friends

    Realising that a friend doesn't have a place in your life, no matter what the reason, can be painful.

    One of the hardest things I've had to do is cease communication with a friend who was in a relationship with an ex-boyfriend of mine who had treated me badly. After years of friendship she accused me of doing something so out of character I felt there was no way back. Once I stopped talking to her, I realised I'd been holding on to so many destructive emotions, and was still deeply affected by everything he'd put me through. Not having either of them in my life meant I could begin to confront and deal with these issues. I realised I needed to stop dragging the past around behind me, and make the change in order to move on.

    As you get older, you realise that you have the ability to surround yourself with whoever you choose. You don't HAVE to be friends with anybody. Your friends should bring you support and happiness. If someone isn't doing that, there is nothing wrong with cutting them out and moving on.

    10. Getting older.

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    Sometimes the thought of getting older, things changing, and being expected to know exactly what you're doing is fucking scary.

    As a child, I remember thinking that by the age of 26 I'd be married, planning children and have an amazing career. Turns out 26 actually comes around a lot quicker than you expect, and I couldn't be further from that scenario.

    But that's OK. I like my life. I like where I am. Does that mean I never have moments where thinking about what lies ahead scares the shit out of me? No.

    Change can be difficult, overwhelming, and sad. But it can also be exciting. There have been events and moments in my life that have come from nowhere, shocked me, surprised me, and enriched my life. Sometimes the best things in life are the surprises. And as you age, you get to know yourself inside out, and being open to possibilities is a good thing. You've made it this far. You're going to be fine.