A while back, Reddit user u/Ohaiidavid came to the Reddit sphere with a qualm. His ex-girlfriend had made him feel bad about his small penis, so he reached out to the internet in hopes of learning the truth — did size REALLY matter that much?
I'm not gonna lie — based on societal norms, I was expecting a resounding "the bigger, the better." But the majority of the comments were actually in favor of smaller pee-pees! Here's what 14 men and women had to say on the subject:
1. "I'm a straight woman. I like the appearance of a large penis. However, no one with a large member has ever gotten anywhere close to getting me off, and the extra friction tends to dry me out very quickly, and there's usually extreme chafing after a short while. I much prefer average to smaller men."
2. "I'm a gay guy, and I actually prefer smaller penises. I'm a top, for one thing, so maybe that skews my preference. I feel like I can give more pleasure to a guy with a smaller penis simply because I can get ahold of more of it at a time."
3. "I was with a man who had a smaller penis (4 inches at most), and he was attentive, sweet, sexy, adept, and fun. And my god, I could have sucked that cock for days on end — no jaw soreness, no gagging, just him writhing like a madman for ages and me loving every moment. Edging someone with your mouth is great fun."
4. "Personally, sex for me is 80% psychological and 20% pure physical stimulation. If you know how to push a girl's buttons and take the time to figure out what turns her on and what her likes and fantasies are, you can probably satisfy her more than someone who is double your size."
5. "Being a bit bigger helps for sex, not going to lie, but it definitely isn't something I'd get hung up on. If I'm having sex with you, it's because I really like you. When I'm caught up in the moment, it is simply another detail."
6. "Size matters, but only if you're too big. I'm a masochist — I like pain in bed, but not the kind of pain that's created by a too-big penis. It's a total downer, and it really limits how rough you can go and what positions you can do. IMO, an average-to-small penis is way more fun than a 'well-hung' penis."
7. "Gay guy here. I prefer 3–4 inches. Anything upward of 6 inches hurts my ass, and I hate it more than anything else. Also, I don't see the point of choking on a dick. It's not fun, you cough, and mucus comes out of your nose while you're trying to look sexy sucking a dick. So yeah, small penises FTW."
8. "I actually think oral would be more fun for both people if you are working with something on the smaller end of the spectrum as opposed to something monstrous."
9. "Personally, I welcome a smaller penis. Having dated a guy rounding out over 8 inches, anything smaller than 5 inches is a beautiful thing. Blowjobs went from a 6 to a 10 on the pleasure scale for me while I was dating a guy with a smaller penis."
10. "I have been with men big, small, and average. I have had good and bad sex from all categories. Guys with big dicks can be lazy about it because they're, well, cocky, and then you end up with bad sex and sometimes a lotta pain if they're not careful."
11. "My current boyfriend has a smaller penis (3–4 inches), and he is also AMAZING in bed. I come almost every time we have sex (from the dicking alone), mostly because he has also learned different techniques (hip swiveling, etc.)."
12. "I've had boyfriends with giant penises who were awesome at first, but my vagina can only take so much. At the end of the day, I'd rather have an awesome guy with a small penis who can make me come with his hands and tongue."
13. "When I see a small dick that I'm about to enjoy, it makes me feel like i'm in control. If it's too big, it makes it a lot more difficult to feel like I'm pleasing him, and it can get painful for me."
14. And finally, "This is my take: I can make myself come in five minutes with my 2- to 3-inch fingers if I'm properly horny."
Note: Some submissions have been edited for length and/or clarity.