The Four Key Steps To A Proper Friend With Benefits Relationship

This will be your step by step guide on how to build, maintain and end a FWB relationship. By defining a Friend with benefits (FWB) relationship as two friends who have a sexual relationship without being emotionally involved. Understanding what it is, this content will give you the information needed on the path to a "friendly" relationship.

1. How to get a FWB

Look presentable

No one likes a slob. When you walk in the room, everyone should want you

Shower for once and actually wash your hair.

Step up the flirting game

Perfect your stupid little pick up lines

Be Confident

He/she should feel honored that you want them to be your FWB

Even though you want to keep it a secret, its a compliment.

Play the part

Don't let them know that you're actually a hopeless romantic

If he/she tells you she likees being with you pretend like you didn't hear it

2. How to maintain the "friendship" and keep distance

Don't get it twisted!

Melissa A. Bisson a professor at Wayne State University characterized a FWB as, "FWB combines the psychological intimacy of a friendship with the sexual intimacy of a romantic relationship while avoiding the ''romantic'' label." In other words DON'T GET IT TWISTED! Do not mention or hint that the convenient sexual encounter is at all a relationship. Avoid public displays of intimacy or any type of relationship activities.

Duty Calls

Always remember that even though your just FWB'S it is the sexual convenience that keeps this relationship going. If your FWB calls and needs some "extra attention" you better make sure to find time to make that happen, if not they will replace you and find a new convenient lay.

Don't go Public

A FWB is discrete and private. In particular females will feel social pressure if everyone starts to find out that she's giving out the P (passionate love) without the D (dedication). Keep this relationship between you and your partner.

3. How to deal with your FWB when you catch the feels

Caution: If you plan on starting a fwb relationship, be sure that you are emotionally prepared for what you may endure. Try to stay away from relationship-y activities that could lead to you catching feelings and avoid staying the night.

If you do happen to catch the feels you have two options...

Tell your partner that you want to go further than a FWB and pray that they don't react crazy

Use confidence while speaking to them

Do NOT be completely crushed when your partner freaks out, you did agree on a strictly physical relationship

Run like hell and find yourself a new FWB, preferably one you can't see yourself getting emotionally attached to

Don't be afraid to just walk (*run) away if the feels get to much to handle. Be the better person. Plus, who knows your ex FWB may be crazy.

The receiving end of hearing they have feelings for you.

Try to be understanding, it takes a lot for a person to put their feelings out there so listen before freaking out. Put yourself in their shoes.

4. And Finally - How to get out of a FWB without destroying the friendship you had before hand.

First, talk to your friend, tell them you don't feel like you should have a physical relationship any more.

After all it is just a friend you banged on the side.

Being told they don't want to have a FWB with you any more.

Just be cool with it. The arrangement was just the added benefit of a physical relationship.

If they start doing girlfriend/boyfriend stuff - dip

Skip town. They want a relationship and they will do anything to get one. If this is not the move for you. just say deuces.

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Resources:

Bisson, M. A., & Levine, T. R. (2009). Negotiating a friends with benefits relationship. Archives of Sexual Behavior [H.W. Wilson - SSA], 38(1), 66.

Lachmann, S. (2015, February 19). What It Really Means to Be 'Friends With Benefits' - Dr Suzanne Lachmann. Retrieved December 5, 2015, from http://www.drsuzannel.com/really-means-friends-benefits/