As you can imagine if committing to keeping a journal is a struggle, committing to an actual living, breathing human being is a big step (a leap off of a cliff blindfolded sort of step). So I date. There is this thing called dating, people!
The shunning of labels causes a problem, a sort of interpersonal communication glitch in a world that lives off of labels. I don't like labels in the same way I don't like favorites. These little facets of a person construct the box in which society so readily places us. Things we can identify are safe. This urge others are driven by to label and categorize is never more evident when it comes to personal relationships, even Facebook wants to know. Don't ask me for my favorite color, food, movie, song etc. I have no idea. It changes. It's fluid. Today I'd say blue, chocolate, Sabrina, and "I Was Made for Loving You" by Tori Kelly. Tomorrow's answers may not be the same. Deal with it.
Unfortunately in a world filled to the brim with labelers terms akin to "f*** buddy" and "thirsty" seem to come up. Shake it off! You are a free spirit.
Maybe it is hard to believe, but not everyone feels the need to be in a relationship.
And despite almost every Disney movie in existence, this is okay.
You don't have to have favorites, and you do not need labels. "I don't know" is a perfectly reasonable response to questions like "what's your favorite color?" Why limit yourself?
Does everything in the world need a label?
Sure your family may find your hesitance to commit...disconcerting. Who is your daughter dating these days?
And people might throw shade your way.
But taking your time changing your facebook status doesn't mean you want to go about smooching up everybody that comes your way!
Haters are going to keep on hating in the label game. They don't know your life. They want to box you up. Maybe they are jealous of what you've got going for you.
So do you! When and if you do decide to label someone your significant other. We will all know this is some serious shit.
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