1. “My [insert someone you know who died of cancer] passed away from cancer.”
2. Post-chemo: “Are you in remission?”
3. We promise you won’t catch our cancer.
4. “Can/will it come back?”
5. “So...what are your chances?”
6. “Everything will be okay.”
7. “Will you lose your hair?”
8. “You don’t look sick.”
9. “Does it run in your family?”
10. “What stage are/were you?”
More than anything we crave genuine conversation and to be treated normally. We don't want forced, blind optimism, but rather true connections that help us maintain some kind of grasp on normal.