10 Steps To Getting Over The One That Got Away

Just when you think everything is going right in the world, the Universe opens a can of Nopeeee on your butt

1. Disregard Everything That is Right in the World

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So you're not one to believe in signs, but for once in your life everything was just going right. It's as if this person was dropped from literal heaven into your lap. Seriously, at one point or another you imagined God personally molding this wonderful human before sending them down to Earth where the two of you would become the next Jim and Pam. So how in God's name could you believe anything good could ever happen in the world again?

That wedding you have coming up? Sorry! Not gonna make it, true love isn't real! A sip and see is being held for your godchild? *Cough cough*, "sorry I have the flu" JK suckers! Babies come from successful couples and successful couples are not in my vocab rn, sry.

2. Participate in the "Baiiiii" Regimen

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Snapchat? Twitter? Facebook? Instagram? Delete/Unfollow/Hide from your newsfeed! Do it all, it's worth it. This is the person who was perfect for you, the last thing you want to do is see them happy with someone else, at least for the time being. Or worse, you could drunk snapchat and that is never a good thing. If you really think you need it, even delete the phone number. It helps, it all helps.

3. Let Loose a Little

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Just as long as you already participated in number two. Let loose and have fun! Go out and get down with ya bad self. You deserve it.

4. Treat Yo Self

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This is a hard time and you deserve to indulge. Whether that be in ice cream or high heels you have every right to blow a little cash on something that will ~maybe~ fill a void. BONUS: The holidays are approaching and you just knocked one gift off your list so spend that dough on yourself instead.

5. Don't Bottle Your Emotions

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It's okay to be sad over the one that got away. Maybe they were the right person at the wrong time or maybe while everything aligned in the beginning, somewhere down the road you weren't compatible. Everything happens for a reason, which is what your friends will tell you as they hold your hair back while you cry into a gallon of ice cream. And that is totally acceptable.

6. Let Your Friends Help You

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Going off of the last one, your friends will be your number one allies through this whole process. Make sure you have someone who will just listen, someone who will tell you all the things that he did wrong, and someone who will eat more ice cream than you so you don't feel bad.

7. Take as Long as You Need to Get Back in the Game

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If you're not ready, you're not ready. Don't let your friends force you into Tinder dates if you honestly think you need more time. Jumping back in too early could result in some awkward dates and possibly public embarrassment. Avoid public embarrassment.

8. Try Something New

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Put all that anger and frustration into something useful! Maybe this is the time you finally go to that pilates class you've been talking about. Or maybe you should use this as a sign to dedicate yourself to an existing hobby like writing or painting. Maybe get bangs! Or Travel! Get out there and show the world - and your ex - what you can really do!

9. Be the Winner

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It may sound childish, but it's okay to want to be the winner of the breakup. No, I'm not talking like Ted and Robin style. If you go crawling back to the one that got away you are only empowering them. By saying "take me back" or "I made a mistake" you are only boosting their ego to the point where they will go out and find someone else. The only thing that does to you is make you weaker. Instead, try and find reasons why you deserve better and act upon those.

10. Do Not Let This Get In the Way of Future Relationships

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Hopefully everything up until this point has allowed you to experience some sort of closure. Don't move forward comparing everything to the "golden standard" of relationships. Finding the right person is a big ole game of trial and error and at some points it is going to suck. However, when it actually does happen you become engulfed in this euphoric cloud, don't let the one who got away fog your judgement.