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Feminist, Meninist, Feminist, Meninist... Let's Call The Whole Thing Off

Words.... can't live with them, can't live without them.

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As I learned so quickly with my last post, the comments section quickly becomes a danger zone, full of, well, stupidity. People's interpretations of someone else's sarcasm aren't always what you think they should be. You end up shaking your head (or banging it madly against your fist). Why does everything have to be so complicated? When did people stop having a sense of humor?

I guess you're wondering what the heck is the point of this? Well the point is, dear reader, that I'm angry and really needed to spew off my opinions. Mostly because if I didn't, who would?

Earlier this week, I read a post about Meninists (personally, I think it should be Masculinists, but who am I, right?), and saw that people were freaking out. How does one word have so much power? Don't you people remember the saying: "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me!"

A lot of people were angry, pointing out that the so called Meninists were just women hating apes. They even pulled out Rape propaganda from their twitter feed. Best comment I saw was "that account makes me wanna throw up my organs" (that would be very unfortunate for that gal).

I spent a good two hours reading through the Meninist Twitter feed to see what they were all about. A lot of it was funny. Some of it had nothing to do with the so Meninist movement (in fact, they're using their attention to raise money to fight cancer... how cool is that?). Regardless of this, the author (or authors) of the Twitter feed brought up a lot of good points.

Via Twitter: @MeninistTweet

They ask the hard questions, like why can't a woman buy dinner on the first date, or why shouldn't a women open a door for a man? This is the 21st century for crying out loud. Haven't we learned by now that men have feelings, too?

All in all, they're right. A large number of women are asking for equality, but only where it benefits them. They don't realize that gender stereotypes work both ways.

Feminist logic: Discrimination against women is oppression. Discrimination against men is equal opportunity.

Why is this logic okay? Why, when we are trying so hard for equality, do we try to make others feel unequal? A person is a person, peopleā€¦ a person is a person.

Look, I get that everyone is full of their own opinions, but hear me out for a bit longer. When I hear the word feminist, I resist the urge to roll my eyes. Mostly because that word has become tainted by women who are setting us back fifty years. No one seems to remember the point of that word anymore, which is why it was so easy to turn into something humorous. I'm not saying that the word Meninist is any better, but it is at least shedding light that something needs to be changed.

Let's take a step back and define feminism: it's "the advocacy of women's rights on the grounds of political, social, and economic equality to men." I'd like to point out that Social and Economic are parts of that definition. Meaning that gender differences should not exist in a social or economic setting (going back to that whole who pays on the first date issue. See what I did there? Two birds, one stone).

I'll admit, it makes me a little mad that my husband makes a lot more than I do (but then I remember, he's a freakin' engineer, and I'm over it.) Just because he makes more doesn't mean that he contributes more. We both put in the same amount for bills every month, and we take turns buying dinner when we go out. We both rush to the door to see who gets there first, mostly because we're two highly competitive nerds. In our eyes, we're equal, and that's the way it should be.

You're probably thinking, "Well duh, you should be equals in a relationship." Well, how about in a work environment? I work in a male-dominated industry. Only once in the last six years have I ever felt unequal, and I made sure that that one time was fixed before it got out of hand. Maybe it's because I don't take things too seriously, or maybe it's because I present myself in a way that makes other's want to treat me equal. Being a feminist doesn't mean being bossy or rude or just plain evil. If you want respect, then you have to first and foremost earn it, regardless of what gender you are.

So readers, I implore you to get over yourselves and stop getting so hung up on words, and please for the love of all things holy, stop thinking you're entitled to everything. If you want it, you have to work for it. I can already tell that a number of you are disgusted and getting ready to fire off your anti-whatever-you-want-to-call-it nastiness (which is the reason I started writing this post in the first place). I don't care. I'll be over here living my life the way it should be - carefree.

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