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Here's Why You Sometimes Cry After Sex

We asked an expert about post-orgasm waterworks.

Welcome to the new BuzzFeed Sex Q&A where you can ask us your awkward, confusing, gross, embarrassing, or thought-provoking questions, and we'll provide answers from leading sexual health experts. Have a question about sex or sexual health? Send it to

This week's question:

Q: I occasionally have sex (intercourse) with my loving, supportive boyfriend of four years. However, oftentimes post-orgasm I feel very emotional and often tear up or cry for no apparent reason. Is this normal? Am I just emotionally screwed up? Is there anything I can do to fix this?

—Sad Sex

Hi, Sad Sex, and thanks so much for sending along your question. To help answer it, we spoke with sex researcher Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., author of Because It Feels Good and associate professor at Indiana University's School of Public Health. Here's what she had to say:

There's definitely nothing wrong with you! And actually, this isn't that uncommon.

There's so much happening in your mind and body during orgasm that it's not really shocking to experience a big emotional release like this.

So, yes, it's totally normal. And you don't need to do anything to "fix" it.

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